＂If you don't help my sister, I won't marry you.＂ Phoenix man threatened his lover and was beaten in the face.

　　Some time ago, my mother talked to me about getting married. She repeatedly told me not to fall in love with Phoenix Man.

　　I asked her what the Phoenix Man was, and I also asked my best friend this question. My best friend told me: "In my opinion, all the boys who are admitted to the university from the countryside and stay in the city are Phoenix men."

　　My mother doesn't agree with this statement. In her opinion, a boy comes from a poor family, and with his own efforts, he is admitted to a university and settled down in the city, which shows that the boy has the ability. Such a boy can't be called Phoenix Man in general.

　　My mother said: "Phoenix Man was born in a poor family, changed his destiny through his own efforts, and stayed in the city to work. Although they have obtained material satisfaction, they still have backward ideas in thought. In their eyes, their relatives' affairs are their own affairs. They obviously have limited strength, but they like to beat up their faces and pretend to be fat, and even ask their wives to pay unconditionally for their relatives. I don't want you to marry such a boy, which will make you suffer all your life. "

　　I sent a circle of friends and asked people around me what they thought of Phoenix Man. My cousin made a video call to me and told me about her first marriage. Her ex-boyfriend was a Phoenix man.

　　01

　　My cousin's ex-boyfriend is Fang Jun, who has a master's degree and works in a multinational company.

　　Fang Jun is a nice guy. In the boss's eyes, he is a good employee, and he is never asked to work overtime. In the eyes of colleagues, he is a good colleague, very warm-hearted, and often helps colleagues with their work. In the eyes of relatives, he is the pride of his family and the hope of the whole family to get rid of poverty.

　　However, in my cousin's eyes, he is a love rat who, in order to make profits for himself and his family, does not hesitate to use despicable means to calculate his lover's love rat.

　　Cousin and Fang Jun are colleagues. She fell in love with Fang Jun because of his warm heart.

　　Cousin is very beautiful, and many men pursue her, and Fang Jun is one of them.

　　In order to win her cousin's heart, Fang Jun has been looking for opportunities to express her heart to her cousin. Cousin met a problem at work, and Fang Jun would rather work overtime for two hours than help her solve it. Cousin came to menstruation and felt uncomfortable. Fang Jun poured hot water bottles and soaked brown sugar water.

　　What moved my cousin even more was that when grandma was in hospital, Fang Jun ran before and after, helping to take care of her.

　　Men are handsome and considerate, and with good income, it is easy to touch girls' hearts. So my cousin accepted Fang Jun's love and became his girlfriend.

　　After being with Fang Jun, my cousin found that although Fang Jun's monthly income can reach more than 30,000, there is no deposit in Cary.

　　Later, she learned that Fang Jun was born in a very poor family. His parents are farmers and have no old-age insurance. He has two sisters and a younger brother. My sister is married and my brother is still in college.

　　Fang Jun's family's economy is very bad. His parents spent money on providing for his education, and he can no longer afford his younger brother's tuition. Therefore, Fang Jun is responsible for all his younger brother's tuition.

　　Cousin felt a little inappropriate, but they were just boyfriend and girlfriend at that time, and she was not good at having too many opinions on this matter.

　　02

　　After they had been in love for a year, Fang Jun made a suggestion to her cousin: "Let's live together! This will not only save one person's rent money, but also familiarize themselves with each other's lifestyles, run in and prepare for marriage. "

　　Cousin thought Fang Jun's character was trustworthy, so she agreed to share the room with him.

　　During the sharing period, the rent was paid by my cousin, and Fang Jun's money was sent to his parents and younger brother except his own expenses.

　　My cousin complained about this, but Fang Jun told her, "If it weren't for the hard work of my parents, how could I be today?"? They spent too much money to train me. They don't have old-age insurance, so I won't go back and let them starve to death? My brother is still in college and has no ability to work. When he graduates, he can also help me share the pressure of providing for the elderly. "

　　Cousin was worried that talking too much about it would affect their feelings, so she had to press the button.

　　On Fang Jun's 26th birthday, my cousin celebrated his birthday in the rented room. Fang Jun bought wine to celebrate her cousin's salary increase.

　　My cousin is a bad drinker and often gets drunk after two or three drinks. In order not to spoil Fang Jun's fun, she had a few more drinks. Under the paralysis of alcohol, they had sex.

　　Cousin was very upset. At this time, Fang Jun proposed to her. Cousin thinks that she will marry him anyway, and there is nothing wrong with having sex before marriage.

　　After that, my cousin lost a lot of worries until she got pregnant unexpectedly.

　　03

　　Girls get pregnant before they get married, and it's not good to hear it out after all.

　　Cousin was in a hurry and urged Fang Jun to propose marriage. Fang Jun soon took his parents and went to propose marriage.

　　My uncle is very dissatisfied with the other handsome family. My cousin is an only child, and my uncle is in business. My family is very rich.

　　Knowing that my cousin was pregnant, my uncle was very angry and helpless, so he could only agree to the marriage.

　　My uncle is very concerned about his own face, and asks Fang Jun to give hundreds of bride price and go through the motions.

　　Fang Jun was very angry when he heard that he wanted a bride price to marry his cousin. He was angry at his cousin: "Didn't your father deliberately make things difficult for me? My family is so poor, how can I get a bride price? "

　　Cousin comforted Fang Jun, and went to my uncle to cry. Finally, my uncle promised to waive the bride price.

　　After some trouble, cousin and Fang Jun's wedding date is fixed. Fang Jun moved into the wedding room that my uncle bought for them and prepared for the wedding.

　　My cousin's prospective mother-in-law learned that her son was going to marry a rich girl and even praised her son for his skill. Three days later, she came with Fang Jun's elder sister.

　　Fang Jun's eldest brother-in-law cheated on her. When the elder sister learned about it, she was noisy and noisy, and her brother-in-law kicked her out of the house. Fang Jun's eldest sister is a housewife with no income. When she divorced, she got nothing but custody of her daughter.

　　Fang Jun's elder sister cried when she entered the door: "Brother! Your sister has no way out, so I can only count on you. If you don't help me, your little niece and I will starve to death. "

　　Cousin was startled, and Fang Jun quickly helped her sister and comforted her.

　　Cousin's prospective mother-in-law said to her cousin, "Daughter-in-law! You see my poor daughter, with such a small child, has nowhere to go, so I can only ask you for help. "

　　My cousin's mother-in-law asked her cousin to take in Fang Jun's eldest sister and her daughter. My cousin felt very embarrassed: "Mom, as you can see, our wedding room is not big and it is too crowded to live together."

　　Fang Jun's mother nodded: "That's right! Such a small house is really not suitable for living together. Daughter-in-law Your parents are so rich, how did they marry you with such a small house? How about this! You ask your parents to buy you a bigger wedding room, and this small house will be used by my daughter and granddaughter. Isn't that the best of both worlds? "

　　Cousin heard this request and felt unbelievable. The city where they live is a first-tier city, and the housing price is particularly high. Although the cousin's wedding room is not large, it is a school district room and still worth a lot of money.

　　My cousin refused on the spot: "My parents have enough intentions to buy me this house. This house is a school district, and my children have to go to school! "

　　After listening to this, Fang Jun's mother was even happier: "The school district room? Great, my granddaughter is going to school soon, so please let her settle down quickly. You have money at home, and it is not a problem to buy another school district. "

　　My cousin replied rudely: "She is Fang Jun's sister, not my parents' daughter. Why should I let her live in the house my parents bought me?" I can rent a house for her at most, and nothing else. "

　　Fang Jun's sister sat on the ground and cried, "Brother! How did you marry such an inhuman woman? At the beginning, in order to support your graduate study, I married that man and read to you with a bride price. Now that you are developed, you regard your sister as a burden. "

　　Hearing this, Fang Jun quickly comforted her sister: "Elder sister, don't pay attention to her. Don't worry, I won't leave you alone. This house is yours, and I'm in charge. "

　　After listening to this, my cousin asked angrily, "My parents bought the house, and my name is written on the property certificate. What makes you decide?"

　　Not to be outdone, Fang Jun threatened my cousin: "I'm pregnant with my child just for you. If you don't promise to give this house to my sister, I won't marry you. You are pregnant, how can I see you get married? "

　　Fang Jun's mother also shouted at my cousin, "You shameless woman, why should you get pregnant before marriage? If it weren't for your family's money, I would promise to let my son marry you? "

　　Cousin felt very sad and angry, rushed out of the wedding room and ran home.

　　After my uncle knew it, he was very angry and came to the wedding room with his good brother. By this time, Fang Jun's mother and sister had moved in.

　　My uncle directly let people throw all their luggage out of the wedding room, change the lock on the door and announce the cancellation of the marriage.

　　At this time, Fang Jun regretted it and called her cousin at once. Cousin answered the phone and replied coldly, "I'm in the hospital. I don't want my child. Go away!" "

　　Cousin got pregnant before marriage, and Fang Jun thought he had the handle on cousin and uncle, blackmailed cousin, and was finally beaten in the face.

　　After listening to my cousin's experience, I couldn't help feeling a sigh. Although she lost her marriage and her children, it was a timely stop loss. If cousin really compromises, then she will definitely lose more than a wedding room, and Fang Jun's relatives will definitely ask for more push their luck in the future.

　　In this relationship, my cousin made a mistake from the beginning. She had already noticed the essence of Fang Jun Phoenix Man and knew that Fang Jun had been subsidizing her family, but she didn't arouse enough vigilance and think in time.

　　Fang Jun set a trap for her cousin. First, she tricked her into living together, then had sex, and even got pregnant before marriage. Although in modern times, unmarried pregnancy happens from time to time, once this kind of thing is exposed, it still has a great influence on girls' reputation. Fang Jun took hold of her cousin's weakness and got hold of her.

　　Love and marriage are very different. Love is full of passion, while marriage is full of dullness. If you can't keep a normal heart and decide to enter the marriage hall just because of love, marriage will be difficult to last.

　　Each of us has our own family of origin. As soon as we were born, we stood at a different starting line. Because of the different growth environment, our values and outlook on life are different.

　　If two people's values and outlook on life are very different, or even completely opposite, such two people are not suitable for being husband and wife.

　　If the three views are inconsistent, it is easy to have various differences and quarrels after marriage, which will hurt the feelings of husband and wife and lead to divorce. See a person's character, not just by his words, but also by his actual performance. If in the process of getting along with you, you find that your three views are very different and you often quarrel over one thing, you need to think carefully and don't make a decision that you regret.

　　Cousin's experience also tells us that for girls, don't hand over your body and innocence easily. No matter when, a woman's reputation is very important. Women should not give orders to others easily, and should not trust others easily.

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