At ten o'clock in the evening, a text message sent by mistake ended my six-year love.

　　We often hear the saying that "if you don't listen to the advice of the old man, you will suffer in front of you". In real life, many young people don't listen to the advice of the old man and insist on doing things according to their own ideas. In the end, they suffered a lot and remembered the advice of the old man and felt regretful.

　　Parents often say, "We have eaten more salt than you have eaten rice." This sentence actually means that parents have much more life experience and richer experience than us, so their eyes on things and people are much more sinister than ours. Sometimes, as inexperienced young people, we can only see the surface of things, but we can't see the essence of things. We can only see the advantages of this matter, but we can't see its defects, so we make impulsive decisions.

　　When parents find that their children are doing something wrong, they will come out in time to stop it. Some children will listen to their parents and rethink their plans. However, after listening to their parents' advice, many children will not only fail to understand their parents' pains, but also arouse their rebellious psychology. They try to prove to their parents that they are old enough to make their own decisions by sticking to their own ideas and practices.

　　I'm just a person who won't listen to my parents' advice. When my first relationship was disapproved by my parents, I tried to force them to compromise in a stupid way, only to find that my ex-boyfriend was not as simple as I thought. If it weren't for an accident, I would have married him and let myself jump into a fire pit.

　　At ten o'clock in the evening, a text message sent by mistake ended my six-year love.

　　01

　　My ex-boyfriend is my senior, and we met each other in a group building activity. He took a fancy to me first, and then pursued me crazily. At that time, I also moved my heart in seed of love and accepted his love.

　　I have been in love with him for six years. During this period, the two of us got along well.

　　I am a girl who is insecure, because I come from a relatively rich family. Although I have been well-fed since I was a child, my parents have been busy with business and have been away from home for a long time, so I spent my childhood with my dog and lacked care from my relatives. I have few good friends and no one to talk to. I have to fight many things by myself, and I can't even find someone to talk to, so I always hope to find a boyfriend who cares for me and will be caring and attentive to me. At this point, he did a good job.

　　When I feel lonely, I call him, and he will immediately put down what he is doing and listen to me patiently. When I feel wronged, I complain to him, and he will accompany me and tell me jokes to make me happy; When I feel uncomfortable, especially when I have dysmenorrhea, I just need a short message and he will arrive immediately. Therefore, I can't live without him more and more, and I am more and more dead set on him.

　　My boyfriend has many advantages, but he has a fatal shortcoming, that is, he is very stingy.

　　During my relationship with him, I paid most of the expenses for the two of us to eat and play together. After being in love for six years, I lent him 30 thousand yuan. Every time I ask him out, I invite him to eat hot pot, but he asks me out and takes me directly to the barbecue stall on the roadside.

　　Boyfriend is stingy for a reason, because his family is poor. Boyfriend comes from an ordinary worker's family, with two sisters and one brother. His parents' income is relatively meager, and he paid a lot of fines because of his super-life, so his childhood was very difficult. During his college years, he worked part-time to earn tuition and living expenses for himself. He is so stingy so that he can continue to study.

　　I felt very distressed after listening to his story about his family. In order to make him live a better life, I never care about money with him. However, I never dreamed that our relationship came to an end because of the word money.

　　02

　　In the sixth year of our love, I told my parents about our love. After my mother asked about my boy's family, she immediately frowned and said to me, "It's not that my mother hates the poor and loves the rich, but that marriage needs to pay attention to the right match." Although we seldom care about you, your material life is sufficient. You are used to spending money lavishly. If you marry him, you will have to live a hard life after marriage. It's not that mom looks down on you, but I really don't think you can adapt to a hard life. "

　　I disagreed at the time and retorted, "There is no money to make! Although Xiaohai's family is poor, he is very successful! He was admitted to a famous university through his own efforts and stayed in the city. "

　　"To be competitive is to get a basic salary of only four thousand dollars a month? To be competitive is to let your girlfriend keep spending money on love? No, I don't approve of this marriage. "

　　"If you don't agree to our marriage, I'll be an old girl and never marry again."

　　I had a strong argument with my mother. She couldn't convince me and I couldn't convince her.

　　I went on a hunger strike with my mother in order to get her to agree to our marriage. My mother had no choice but to give in and agree to our marriage.

　　She invited Xiao Hai and her parents to our home and began to discuss our marriage. In our place, giving a bride price is an indispensable part of talking about marriage. My mother asked Xiaohai's parents for a hundred thousand bride prices.

　　After listening to this, Xiaohai's mother immediately cried with my mother: "My mother! You see, the two children have been in love for six years, and their feelings are very deep. Which can be measured by bride price? Your family is so rich that you don't lack this hundred thousand dollars! Our family is so poor, how can we get a hundred thousand bride price? "

　　After listening to Xiaohai's mother's words, her mother felt very angry. She patted the table and said, "It's perfectly normal to marry a bride price. It's right for me to raise my daughter so big and ask you for a hundred thousand bride prices. If you don't want to give, or want to give less, then this marriage is out of the question. Let me make it clear to you in advance that I will not go back with this bride price. If you are willing to marry, you have to show your sincerity. "

　　The meeting between the two parents ended in discord. Xiaohai's mother was very angry and left my house with Xiaohai.

　　I feel very angry, too. I think my mother is deliberately making things difficult for Xiaohai, so she will ask for a hundred thousand bride price. However, my mother's attitude is very firm and she won't give in.

　　Xiaohai sent me a message, asking me to persuade my mother to lower the requirements of the bride price: "Dear, don't you understand my heart?" I've been good enough to you for six years! Aunt asked for a hundred thousand bride price, which is obviously not pleasing to my eye! You should persuade her to do something, and don't let our parents ruin our good deeds. "

　　I tossed and turned in bed, thinking all night, and didn't think of a way. In desperation, I went to my friends and hoped they would give me some advice.

　　A friend gave me an idea: "If you tell your mother that you are pregnant, she will naturally not object to your marriage."

　　I thought it was a good idea, too, so at about 10 pm, I sent a short message to my mother, which said, "I'm pregnant and my baby is Xiaohai's." Because, my mother is having dinner with the client at this time, and she will definitely not reply to me in time. In order to have a good dream, I turned off my cell phone and slept until dawn the next day.

　　03

　　The next morning, my door was kicked open by my mother. My mother pulled me up and asked, "I heard Xiaohai's mother say that you are pregnant, is it true?"

　　I feel very strange. I clearly sent a text message to her, but why did she say that she heard it from Xiaohai's mother?

　　I turned on my mobile phone, and after a closer look, I realized that I sent a text message by mistake yesterday.

　　I felt something was wrong in my heart and asked, "Did Xiaohai's mother say anything?"

　　"You don't know how triumphant she was when she told me about it. She told me that the bride price was nothing, and she asked me to marry you in a wedding room. What's more, her name should be written on the wedding room. Otherwise, their family will not marry you. Anyway, you are pregnant before marriage, and it is us who are humiliated. "

　　After listening to my mother's words, I felt thunderous and called Xiaohai with trembling hands. Xiaohai answered the phone, and the first sentence asked, "Lily, how has my mother's request been considered?" As long as your family agrees to our requirements, we can get married immediately. Since you are pregnant, we won't have a wedding, just get a certificate directly. "

　　"Did your mother ask this or did you ask it?"

　　"What's the difference? Anyway, our whole family agrees with this request. Your family is so rich, it is not a problem to marry a wedding room at all. Stop fooling around and get the house ready quickly. I can get married when I move in with my parents. "

　　I calmed down and answered coldly, "I'm sorry, I was just joking with my aunt last night. I'm not pregnant. You miscalculated." You don't need to give a bride price, because our relationship is over here. "

　　Xiaohai thought I was angry and continued to brainwash me: "Lily, don't be angry and don't hurt the child." I want a wedding room for our own good. My family is poor and I can't afford a wedding room. In order to let you live a good life after marriage, it is also appropriate for your parents to marry the wedding room. "

　　"If you don't believe me, you can take me to the hospital for examination."

　　I hung up, holding the quilt and burying my head in tears.

　　After that, Xiaohai and his parents came to see me, but they were all kicked out by my parents.

　　Later, a girl from our university club sent me a screenshot of his circle of friends, which read: "It's really not worth feeding the dog for six years. She didn't look at herself in the mirror. At the beginning, if I hadn't known her family in advance, would I have pursued her actively? I didn't expect that she was also a scheming woman and actually used the fake pregnancy to test me. "

　　By this time, I completely understood his intention.

　　I asked my mother, "You knew he approached me for money, didn't you?"

　　"I guessed, the reason why I am so opposed to your love is because I don't like the wrong marriage."

　　"family of origin's influence on people's personality and outlook on money is very profound, because the family gap is too large, and your views on consumption and money are very different. You regard money as nothing, and he regards money as a treasure. You spend a lot of money, and he can't wait to split a penny into two flowers. If you marry him, you will definitely quarrel over money after marriage, which will lead to conflicts between husband and wife. "

　　Now, I understand the truth that a marriage that is not valued by parents is really difficult to be happy. Although modern marriage pays attention to free love, we still need to ask our parents for more advice on choosing a spouse. Most parents want their children to live well and find the right person for them. Young people are easily carried away by falling in love and can't see the real problems behind love clearly. At this time, parents need to give us more advice.