The man asked for his sister's bride price, and was scolded by his mother： I can't stand on my own feet. Which girl will marry you？

　　The idea of preferring sons to daughters has prevailed for thousands of years. Although we have constantly called for equality between men and women, more and more girls have become independent and dare to resist the oppression of their parents, it is undeniable that there are still many people who prefer sons to daughters.

　　After reading many cases of son preference, what I can't understand most is why many women prefer sons to daughters, such as being grandmothers' granddaughters and mothers' daughters. Since we are both women, we should understand that it is not easy to be a woman, and we should respect girls. However, instead of treating girls at home well, they have become perpetrators. Then, they may brainwash their daughters, pass on this unhealthy trend, and let more girls get hurt.

　　"Let your daughter experience what she has suffered. Such a woman is not worthy of being a mother. I can never do this." Aunt Tao refused to let her daughter become a victim of her younger brother, regardless of the accusations of her ex-husband and son.

　　01. Parents' preference for sons will harm their sons, and my brother is a lesson from the past; ?

　　Aunt Tao knows exactly how much harm parents have done to girls because they prefer boys to girls. After all, she is one of the victims.

　　"My mother gave birth to five children, four women and one man. When she gave birth to my brother, she was 32 years old. At that time, her family was not good and her medical level was not too high. She gave birth to my brother and her body collapsed. Just like that, my mother was still very happy and proud that she finally gave birth to a son."

　　Aunt Tao didn't study or go to school. Before she got married at the age of 20, she was her brother's nanny and caregiver. When she got married, all her dowry was detained, and together with the money of the other three sisters, she built a building for her brother.

　　Aunt Tao's parents preferred sons to daughters and gave all their resources and love to their sons. In the end, their sons broke their hearts.

　　"When my parents were alive, they called their four daughters regularly and asked us to give them money, otherwise their precious son's family would starve to death. When my father was dying, it was my third sister and I who served at the bedside. My brother-in-law refused to come, but my brother only came once and asked my father to make a will. After my parents left, my brother sold the house at home and squandered all his property, but he didn't make much money and lived on empty pockets. The year before last, he drank too much and died, and his brother-in-law also went back to his hometown. "

　　Preference for sons will not only cheat daughters, but also cheat sons. This is a bloody lesson left by parents, which Aunt Tao has to remember.

　　02. I can't stop my in-laws from being eccentric with men, but I will try my best to keep a bowl of water flat; ?

　　Although Aunt Tao tries hard to make a bowl of water even and wants to be strict with her son, she can't stop her confused in-laws and eccentric husband.

　　"Originally, after I gave birth to a daughter, I don't want to regenerate. My in-laws are quarreling at home every day, and men directly say that they want to drive our mother and daughter out of the house and marry a woman who can have a son. I have no culture, I can't support my daughter and me, so I have to compromise, pay a fine and give birth to a son. "

　　After the son was born, he grew up with the love of his grandparents and father. My son doesn't study hard, Aunt Tao wants to discipline him, and his in-laws don't let men forbid him. When my son was making trouble outside, Aunt Tao was scolded by her in-laws and ex-husband. In the end, under the doting of his parents-in-law and ex-husband, although his son caused too much trouble, he was not very successful. He only got into three books and earned less than 5,000 yuan a month after graduation.

　　When my daughter was fifteen, Aunt Tao's marriage came to an end: "If I don't get a divorce, they will force my daughter to drop out of school to support her family. In desperation, I took my daughter away. With the help of my second sister, I found a job of washing dishes and took my daughter to high school while working. "

　　After her daughter was admitted to a book, her ex-husband refused to pay the tuition fee. Under the guidance of a friend, Aunt Tao gave her daughter a student loan, so that she must complete her studies: "Your father doesn't love you, and your mother is of little use and can't help you too much. If you don't live up to expectations, there will be no hope for a lifetime. Children, don't live like me. "

　　03. My son asked for his sister's bride price and was scolded by me. ?

　　After graduation, Aunt Tao's daughter joined a well-paid enterprise and made some money. Some time ago, the 26-year-old daughter set a wedding date with her boyfriend, and the man gave her 100 thousand bride price.

　　"My daughter put the bride price money and her own savings in a bank card and gave it to me, saying that it was a pension for me, so let me not work so hard and stop working. I refused. I asked her to take this money as a dowry. If a man is not good to her after marriage, if she has this money and a job, she will not have the courage to leave as I did at the beginning. "

　　Aunt Tao doesn't want her daughter's deposit and bride price. What makes her feel chilling is that her son, whom she hasn't seen for several years, actually took the initiative to come to her door and asked for the bride price money of her sister: "Mom, the bride price money of my sister must be left to me. Grandma and Dad said that I am a boy and my sister's money is mine."

　　My son asked for his sister's bride price and was scolded by Aunt Tao: "She is my daughter, not your cash cow. What about your face? Look at you. You can't even support yourself. You've got hands, feet and brains for nothing. If you can't stand on your own feet, which girl will marry you? "

　　The son and his ex-husband had quarreled several times, demanding that she hand over the money and threatening not to provide for her old age. After the daughter knew it, she assured Aunt Tao that with her, Aunt Tao would be very happy in her later years. As for the father who prefers boys to girls, he is ready to "raise children to prevent old age"!

　　You have been hurt, please don't let your children become unfortunate. ?

　　Psychologist frank cardelle said:

　　"One of the most unfortunate facts in life is that the first major tribulation we encounter mostly comes from family, and this kind of tribulation can be inherited."

　　In real life, many women were persecuted by the idea of son preference when they were daughters. After becoming mothers, they imposed such pain on their daughters and made their daughters repeat their mistakes. It is a daughter's misfortune to have such a mother.

　　If we want to completely stop the unhealthy trend of favoring boys over girls and stop girls from being hurt like this, we must remember not to be the perpetrators. You have been hurt, please don't let your children become unfortunate. If you dare to resist family of origin's oppression, have self-awareness, and educate your children well so that they can grow up in a fair and loving environment, your children will not harm the next generation. Only in this way can this unhealthy trend be stopped slowly.

　　Tolstoy once said:

　　"All education, or 999% of education, comes down to role models and parents' own correction and perfection."

　　As a parent, you are the child's first teacher. How to educate your children, whether they can grow up, whether they can be spared from worrying about them all their lives, and whether they will be filial and provide for their old age depends on how you educate them. If you prefer boys to girls, you will not only freeze your daughter's heart and ruin her happiness, but also turn your son into a waste, so that he can't bear the responsibility of the family. At that time, your daughter is unwilling to talk to you, your son is unable or has no plans to provide for your old age, and you have no savings, so your old age will become extremely bleak.

　　Born a woman, you have nothing wrong. If you are not good to your daughter, you have made a big mistake. Once you continue like this, karma will come sooner or later.