＂Nobody cares about me at home.＂ The 74-year-old man accused his daughter-in-law of being heartless. Granddaughter： You should scold your son.

　　Know No is my favorite novel, and I have read it no less than four or five times. In this novel, one of my favorite sentences comes from Sheng Minglan's opinion on returning good for evil.

　　"If all good for evil, why good for evil? Only by reporting straightforwardness and repaying virtue with virtue can we know that there is good and evil in the world. "

　　Asking others to return good for evil is actually like standing and talking like it's easy. Do you know how much he has been wronged and suffered? Do you know what he went through?

　　As Han Han said: "If you don't understand, you should shut up;" If you understand, then you should shut up all the more. Because you never know what others have experienced. "

　　Instead of persuading others to repay evil with good, it is better to be in awe of karma from the beginning. If you don't do bad things, you are not afraid of ghosts knocking at the door in the middle of the night. As for those who have planted evil causes, expecting others to repay evil with good is nothing more than to escape the punishment they should bear.

　　"What have I done in my previous life? I stand on such an unfilial daughter-in-law? I am 77 years old, my family has no one to take care of me, and my son is working. I can understand that my daughter-in-law has no job, but she has gone out to play, regardless of me. What kind of world is this? "

　　On the Mid-Autumn Festival, while relatives came to visit, 74-year-old Aunt Pan complained to people with a runny nose and tears that her daughter-in-law was heartless and unfilial. Just as some people followed suit, Aunt Pan's granddaughter came back. When she heard this, she went back rudely.

　　"Nobody cares about you at home. What you should scold is your son, that is, my dad. As for my mother, why do you scold her? Ask yourself, are you worthy of my mother? "

　　Li Juan, Aunt Pan's granddaughter, recounted the three sins of her father and grandmother, regardless of the relatives who kept saying "How to talk to your grandmother".

　　01. I remember every slap you and your son slapped my mother;

　　The first sin is physical injury.

　　"I remember every slap you slapped my mother with my dad, and I will never forget it in my life." In Li Juan's impression, the mother she witnessed was beaten more than once.

　　When Li Juan was 6 years old, she went out to play and came home. When she just entered the house, she saw her mother slapped by her grandmother and knocked to the ground, which left a serious psychological shadow.

　　"When you were sick, my mother ran at both ends, went to the hospital to take care of you, and went home to cook for me. She was so busy that her back ached and she relied on sleeping pills to help her sleep. And the result? What did you say when my dad came home? You actually distorted the facts and said that my mother ignored you and abused you. Then, your precious son moved his hand on his wife. "

　　"My grandfather's birthday, my mother reached out and asked my father for money to buy some gifts for my grandfather. Instead of giving it, he transferred his anger at work to my mother."

　　At some point, Li Juan's anger was even greater, and she asked her grandmother, "I know that the reason why you bullied my mother is that she didn't have a son. The question is, is this my mother's fault? "

　　02. My mother wants to go out to work, but you don't let her. She wants money, and you say she stays idle.

　　Li Juan's mother was bullied by her mother-in-law and her husband, not only because she preferred sons to daughters, but also because she had no job and was a housewife. Because she was married far away, her parents didn't care much about her, so she didn't have the confidence to leave home at all.

　　Li Juan remembers that in the year when he was admitted to junior high school in the county, a conflict broke out between his mother and his father.

　　"My mother said, I'm going to the county for junior high school. I'm worried that I'm not used to living on campus, so I can't take care of myself and delay my study. So, she wants to go to the county to accompany her, take care of me and find a job to relieve the pressure at home. Is my mother's idea wrong? "

　　Li Juan's father wouldn't let her, and grandma wouldn't let her. The reason was that if Li Juan's mother went to the county and got a job, no one would do housework and serve them both. In fact, at that time, Li Juan's grandparents were only in their fifties, and their bodies were hale and hearty. In many families, elderly people of their age still helped their sons and daughters-in-law to do their work!

　　As a result of the quarrel, my mother was black and blue, and my plan to accompany my daughter and find a job ran aground.

　　"My mother wants to go out to work, and if you don't let her, she wants money. It's outrageous that you say she eats idle food."

　　03. You are old, your son doesn't serve, let my mother serve, well thought;

　　Li Juan's mother is traveling outside now, the money is given by Li Juan, and the hotel is booked by Li Juan's boyfriend. Before mom left, she almost got beaten by Li Juan's father again. What's more, he actually did it in front of his future son-in-law. Fortunately, Li Juan grew up, stopped him and turned over with him.

　　"Do you know why he was rude to my mother again? Or because of the poor old man in front of you. "

　　Li Juan's father is 52 years old this year. He found a job from nine to five in the county. Although he didn't earn much, he lived a very leisurely life. Li Juan also gave them a sum of money every month to honor them.

　　After work, Li Juan's father either goes out to socialize and drink with others. When he is drunk, the other party will call Li Juan's mother and ask him to take him back to take care of him. He will be drunk at home or go out to play cards and stay out all night.

　　"Recently, my mother changed her attitude and listened to my advice. She didn't want to submit to humiliation and was bullied by your mother and son. Seeing that your son refused to take care of his own mother, she summoned up the courage to accuse him. Then, without saying anything, he swung it in the past with a slap, which was really skilled. Fortunately, my boyfriend was there and stopped. "

　　Speaking of which, Li Juan just accused Li Juan's mother's relatives of being silent, and there was more and more buzz among the onlookers. However, the object of their criticism was not Li Juan's mother, but Aunt Pan and her son. Listening to the buzz around, Aunt Pan, who was scolded by her granddaughter, was humiliated and choked: "It's only natural for a daughter-in-law to serve her mother-in-law. How can a man be allowed to serve others?"

　　"Did you give birth to your daughter-in-law or raise your daughter-in-law? Why does she have to wait on you? " Some people can't stand it anymore. They stand on Li Juan's side and help to criticize Aunt Pan together.

　　"Grandma, I know very well how old-fashioned and stubborn your thoughts are, and I don't want to argue with you any longer. I just want to tell you that in the future, my mother told me to take care of my baby and I will give her a pension and die. As for my dad, he raised me, which is an irrefutable fact. I won't miss him for 1000 yuan a month in alimony. However, it's impossible to expect my mother and I to continue to serve him and make him eat. And you, live with your son! "

　　When Li Juan left, the onlookers dispersed. As for her three sins, no one knows whether Aunt Pan reflected on herself.

　　04. Ten years to see a mother-in-law and ten years to see a daughter-in-law. If her mother-in-law has a bad evening, the person who should complain is really not a daughter-in-law.

　　Writer Zweig said: all the gifts of fate are secretly priced. You must exchange it in another way, or pay it back.

　　Ten years to see a mother-in-law and ten years to see a daughter-in-law. If her mother-in-law has a bad evening, the person who should complain is really not a daughter-in-law, but yourself and your son.

　　As long as you are generous and show some respect to your daughter-in-law, you are not required to treat her as a daughter, but only to respect her, keep a certain distance and give a hand when you can help. As long as your son is not married to a woman with a vicious mind, your daughter-in-law will not be too bad to you when you are old.

　　If your son is a qualified husband who knows how to reconcile the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he will protect, respect and care for his wife, and try his best to give his wife and children a happy home. For your son's sake, his daughter-in-law will not treat you too badly.

　　As Zhang Ailing's "Between Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law" wrote: "A woman who loves her husband is happy to obey her mother-in-law in order to make her husband live a proper life."

　　However, if there is a combination of a bad mother-in-law and an irresponsible man in marriage, women will really be overwhelmed.

　　Finally, it is suggested that women who meet this combination can leave early, so don't think about taking a step back. Endure it all your life, you don't need it or have the energy.

　　Today's topic: Who do you think Aunt Pan is to blame? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.