＂Marry a man without marrying a phoenix man＂： A woman can't marry a phoenix man who has these three characteristics before marriage.

　　"If you marry a wife, don't marry a brother-in-law, and if you marry a phoenix man," is a saying circulating in the marriage market now.

　　There is some truth in this sentence. family of origin's influence on a person is deeply rooted in the bone marrow, affecting a person's three views, behavior, personality, etc. Everyone has the shadow of family of origin more or less. When people get married, family of origin's shadow will seep into the marriage, which will have a noticeable influence on our spouses.

　　As emotional expert Liu Qi said:

　　"Marriage you are not married to a certain person, but to all the social relations of this person. So what kind of marriage will you have when you marry a family. "

　　Needless to say, it is a great misfortune for a woman to be born in a family that values boys over girls, but a woman who becomes a brother-in-law does not deserve people's sympathy. If a person is self-indulgent and willing to be a stepping stone to others' lives, no matter how much others want to help, it will not help.

　　Once a man marries a brother-helper, his own interests will suffer, and his wife's bad family of origin is like a hot potato, which he can't get rid of. In the end, men may end up with both money and people. Therefore, the devil who helps his brother can't marry.

　　As for the Phoenix man, he should not be killed with a stick. Some Phoenix men themselves have no problems, can carry clearly, have their own opinions, are self-motivated, are responsible for their marriage, and deserve to be entrusted by women for life. Some Phoenix men are selfish, regard family of origin as above everything else, and try their best to infringe upon the interests of their spouses. Such Phoenix men cannot marry.

　　Three women who met an unworthy Phoenix man told us that a woman can't marry a Phoenix man who has these three characteristics before marriage.

　　1, not only don't want to spend money to marry you, but also want to ask you to marry him; ?

　　Ye Fang's ex-boyfriend Li Yong is a Phoenix man and an egoist.

　　Li Yong was born in a very poor family. With the help of the whole family, he was admitted to the university. With his strong professional ability and willingness to endure hardships, he gained a firm foothold in the city and earned a good income.

　　Li Yong chased Ye Fang for half a year, constantly courting, giving gifts, and all kinds of care and help, and finally moved Ye Fang, instead of talking about marriage.

　　Ye Fang's parents disdained Li Yong and didn't want to marry his daughter, but they couldn't resist her daughter's wishes and had to agree to the marriage.

　　When Ye Fang asked Li Yong if he had enough money to buy a house, Li Yong's words woke Ye Fang up like a pot of cold water: "It's not that you don't know that my family is poor. I have a younger brother who is studying. How can I afford to buy a house?" Honey, don't your parents have two suites? Isn't it enough to transfer a set to make a wedding room for us? "

　　Li Yong not only wants Ye Fang to marry the wedding room, but also wants Ye Fang to ask his parents for more money. As for the bride price money, he thinks that the bride price money is just a formality and does not need to be so troublesome.

　　"To put it bluntly, he just wants to marry a woman who will marry him and have children for him without spending a penny."

　　In Do You Know, Sheng Yi has a classic line called "Only a worthless man cares about a woman's dowry all day." A man who cares about a woman's dowry and wants to get rich through marriage is the most worthless and unworthy of being entrusted for life.

　　Whether in ancient times or in modern times, people have a most basic requirement for men, that is, they should have the ability to support their families and ensure the basic economic expenses of the whole family. Men who eat soft rice are the most despised and insecure.

　　Women should understand that people who marry you for money will abandon you for money sooner or later. If a person only has interests in his eyes, you become a tool. When he needs you, he will please you, and when he doesn't need you, he will kick you away and even do something that hurts you. Such a person is not worthy of your life.

　　2. Most of his income was given to family of origin; ?

　　"I broke up with my boyfriend after the Double Eleven. He spends too much money for family of origin and bears too much burden. I dare not live with such a man. "

　　Ms. Yun told me that during the Double Eleven last year, her boyfriend spent a total of 30,000 yuan and got her three-month salary.

　　Among these items, there are two down jackets for my sister, a computer, study materials for my brother, a mobile phone worth about 5,000 yuan, a notebook computer, and gifts for my uncle and other relatives. Only less than 1,000 yuan is bought for himself, but Ms. Yun has nothing.

　　Ms. Yun thinks that he spends too much money, but her ex-boyfriend doesn't agree: "It's not easy for my parents to raise me. In order to provide for my study, my father has to work 12 hours a day. What happened to my filial piety?" When I was young, my relatives didn't give us a hand. Now that I am promising, I should naturally repay them. "

　　"kindness is a virtue, but gratitude can't ignore your own life! He earns 15,000 yuan a month. He has to give his younger brother living expenses, give his parents alimony, and his relatives refuse to lend money. He has no savings at all. If I marry him and have children, who will raise them? "

　　Writer San Mao said:

　　"If marriage can't be implemented in such small things as dressing, eating and counting money, it can't last long."

　　It is immoral to marry for money, and it is foolish to ignore material factors for love. When looking for a partner, we should not only find the person we love, but also pay attention to material factors.

　　After marriage, everyone has a responsibility of his own. It is everyone's obligation to consider his own small family and not infringe on the rights of his spouse. If a person always puts family of origin in the first place, he will infringe on his spouse's interests for family of origin, and he is not a qualified partner.

　　3. Phoenix men who don't respect women and degrade their status can't marry. ?

　　After returning to her hometown with her boyfriend, Ms. Dai sent her boyfriend a breakup message and asked her why. The reason was simple: "I will not marry a family that treats women as free nannies."

　　Ms. Dai lived in her boyfriend's house for three days, and saw clearly the mode of getting along with her boyfriend's parents and the status of her boyfriend's mother at home.

　　"The clothes were washed by his mother, and the food was cooked by his mother. He and his father played with their mobile phones and watched TV, and sat there motionless without any help. His mother put the dishes on the table, put the rice in a bowl and put it in front of them before they started eating. After dinner, the bowl was put on the table, and each did his own thing, not to mention washing the dishes, and there was no consciousness of sending the chopsticks to the pool. "

　　When chatting with her boyfriend's mother, his mother's words completely dispelled Ms. Dai's idea of marrying him: "When you get married, I will enjoy myself and don't have to do housework anymore."

　　"I am a wife, not a nanny. I have to be a nanny, and I still get paid. Why should I have children and be a nanny? "

　　The writer Beauvoir once wrote in The Second Sex:

　　"There is hardly any hard work, which can be compared with the torture caused by the repeated housework forever-the clean things get dirty and the dirty things are cleaned. Day after day, cycle after cycle. "

　　Although people have been advocating equality between men and women, there are still many people who have the idea that men are superior to women. Such people don't respect women and look down on the value that women can provide. In their eyes, their wives are just free nannies who wash and cook, have children and sleep with them. It is a matter of course that you are willing to serve their whole family. If you are not willing, they will accuse you of those pedantic reasons. With such a person, it is nothing more than a person with different views, and it is too much to say a word.

　　Before you marry a person, you must see his character and family clearly, and don't blindly make do with it.