＂You are 62 years old, aren't you afraid of losing face in divorce？＂ A bad marriage is better to end than to settle.

　　In recent years, the increasing divorce rate between husband and wife has attracted people's attention. Many people are very anxious when they get married, and they get a divorce certificate in a hurry without knowing each other's character and basic situation. Then, after getting along for a while, the married life is a chicken flying a dog jumping. So, in order to end this painful marriage for both of them, the couple get a divorce certificate in a hurry.

　　Just like Mr. Qian Zhongshu's famous words:

　　"Marriage is like a golden painted birdcage. The birds outside the cage want to live in it, and the birds inside the cage want to fly out. So knot and leave, leave and knot, there is no game. It is also said that it is a besieged castle. People outside the city want to rush in and people in the city want to escape. "

　　Although divorce represents the failure of marriage, although people often say that it is better to tear down ten temples than ruin a marriage, if two people really have no relationship and continue to insist on marriage will only bring them pain, ending marriage is not a feasible way.

　　Zhang Xiaoxian once said:

　　"Two people are together to be happy, and breaking up is to alleviate the pain. You can't make me happy anymore, and I have to leave. When I leave, it is also very painful. However, you are definitely more painful than me, because I say goodbye first, and I am the first to pursue happiness."

　　A bad marriage is better to end than to settle. Whether you persist or not has nothing to do with the opinions of others, the attitude of your family, your age, but your own real feelings.

　　Recently, my mother's good friend Aunt Fang became the talk of the people around her after dinner, and was pointed at because she still had the idea of divorce at the age of 62.

　　01. My husband died and my son got married. I feel very lonely alone.

　　Aunt Fang got married 37 years ago. After the marriage, her in-laws were reasonable and kind, her husband was very motivated, and the family lived a happy life. After three years of marriage, Aunt Fang's son was born.

　　Twelve years ago, Aunt Fang, who was over 50 years old, retired and was preparing to enjoy a better life in her later years. When disaster struck, Aunt Fang's husband had an accident and passed away. Aunt Fang's father-in-law died, and her mother-in-law couldn't accept the blow from the white-haired man to the black-haired man, so she left soon.

　　After Aunt Fang's husband died, Aunt Fang and her son, Brother He, lived alone. Then, Brother He married his lover.

　　Brother He's father-in-law has a certain relationship in the local area and introduced him to a well-paid job. For the sake of her son's happiness, Aunt Fang supported Brother He to work in his wife's home.

　　After Brother He left, Aunt Fang, who lives alone, soon felt lonely.

　　02. After receiving my son's blessing, I found a wife;

　　Aunt Zhong, Fang's good friend, likes dancing. At her invitation, Aunt Zhong also likes dancing. In the process of dancing, Aunt Fang got to know Uncle Lin, a single old man. They hit it off at first sight, and the more they talked, the happier they became, and they often met.

　　After getting along for a while, Aunt Fang moved the idea of remarriage: "I feel that others are quite good and in good health, suitable for being a wife."

　　Uncle Lin also has this idea and wants to marry Aunt Fang. Aunt Fang consulted her son and got the blessing from her son and daughter-in-law, so they became an elderly couple.

　　After getting married, Aunt Fang moved to Uncle Lin's house and rented out her old house to earn some pension money.

　　03. I can't stand being a nanny and being old;

　　Aunt Fang's original intention of getting married is to find a wife who can know how to be warm and warm, accompany herself and help each other for the rest of her life. However, Uncle Lin's purpose of getting married is not like this. In his eyes, Aunt Fang is not a wife, but a unpaid nanny, plus her son's cash cow.

　　Aunt Fang has a monthly pension of 5,000 yuan, and her son and daughter-in-law will also give alimony, while Uncle Lin only has 3,000 yuan. Shortly after getting married, Uncle Lin handed the passbook to his daughter-in-law behind Fang Ayi's back, and asked Fang Ayi to take money out to support his family.

　　At first, Aunt Fang didn't care. Anyway, Uncle Lin was in good health and didn't spend much money. As time went on, Uncle Lin's family understood Aunt Fang's soft-hearted and easy-going personality and became unscrupulous.

　　Borrowing money under various flags is their first move. For example, children need money when they are sick, they need money to repay their mortgage, they need money to buy a car, etc. If Aunt Fang doesn't lend them money, they will unite to run on Aunt Fang. If you borrow it, it's just meat buns hitting dogs, and there is no return.

　　Ceng rice, is the second trick they make. Shortly after Aunt Fang remarried, Uncle Lin's son often visited at noon under the banner of visiting his father, which forced Aunt Fang to leave their family for dinner. After a long time, they also rightfully picked up the food and asked Fang Ayi to buy more meat. The money was naturally from Fang Ayi.

　　What makes Aunt Fang completely collapse and want a divorce is that they not only play the idea of Aunt Fang's pension, but also treat Aunt Fang as a nanny. After dinner, the couple left, but the children were left to Aunt Fang, forcing Aunt Fang to take care of them.

　　"I don't even take my grandchildren. Why should I bring them a baby? I take care of their baby, and they give me a pension? They dare to say this, I don't believe it. "

　　04. I want a divorce, and I'm afraid of implicating my son's reputation.

　　Aunt Fang quarreled with Uncle Lin several times, but how can she be better than others with one mouth? After several toss-ups, Aunt Fang felt that remarriage was a wrong decision, so she decided to divorce.

　　Uncle Lin refused, but also ridiculed Aunt Fang: "You are 62 years old, aren't you afraid of shame in divorce?"

　　Aunt Fang does have this concern. She is worried that the comments from people around her will make her unable to lift her head again, and that her jokes will affect her in-laws' views on her son.

　　When I met Aunt Fang, Aunt Fang's daughter-in-law had come over. Her attitude was extremely tough, forcing Uncle Lin to sign a divorce agreement, which put an end to their idea of dragging on in one sentence: "It's ok to leave!" Anyway, mom is a big age. It doesn't matter whether you want that divorce certificate or not, but you can't get a dime. This is my mother-in-law. I am responsible for supporting the elderly. In the future, my mother-in-law will come to live with me, and you will not see it. "

　　According to my mother, Aunt Fang has received a divorce certificate, is handling the house, and is going to support the elderly with her daughter-in-law.

　　05. A hopeless marriage cannot stay.

　　Suhomlinski said:

　　"If you marry in a hurry, you are willing to take the risk of becoming an unfortunate person."

　　This sentence is not only to remind young girls, but also to remind women who want to find someone to take care of their old age. No matter when, please treat your marriage carefully, don't get married in a hurry, and don't risk becoming an unfortunate person.

　　What should I do if I have become an unfortunate person? The answer is simple. Marriage is your own. It's up to you whether to keep it or not. You are the one who needs to live, and it's up to you whether to continue or not.

　　If the marriage is hopeless, and the two of you are really doomed, then this marriage can't stay. Time has been passing, irreversible, and life is very precious. You should know how to cherish every inch of time.

　　Today's topic: Do you think Aunt Fang's divorce is right or wrong? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.