In order to help my sister do business, I borrowed 200,000 yuan. When my sister disappeared, I was forced to leave home clean.

　　In Lu Yao's classic "Ordinary World", there is such a sentence describing the relationship between relatives:

　　"Relatives are often the most vulgar. They try to touch each other and roll their eyes if they don't. Even the biggest difficulties in your life are often caused by relatives."

　　When Sun Shaoan first set up a brick factory, many villagers came to him to look for jobs. Many people just took money and didn't work. Sun Shaoan couldn't bear to dismiss them, so he had to spend a lot of money to support them. When the brick factory closed down, those who benefited from Sun Shaoan not only failed to lend a helping hand, but avoided him, and some even threw stones at his back.

　　There is a saying in Caigen Tan:

　　"Wealth is more cold, flesh and blood is more taboo, and the state of coldness is richer than poverty; Jealousy, the flesh and blood is especially cruel to outsiders. If you don't use cold intestines here, you will be calm, and you will never sit in trouble. "

　　It is the weakness of many people's human nature to hold high and step on low. It's really important to keep a certain distance from some relatives who can't do anything but bring you trouble. You must be clear about what you can and can't do, and don't ruin your life and happiness for the so-called relatives.

　　On the 28th of the twelfth lunar month, I went to my grandmother's house to visit her, and I was surprised to learn that my third aunt was divorced.

　　Sanyi is 54 years old this year. She has two sons under her knee. The eldest son is married, and the younger son is old enough to talk about marriage. It is the time to enjoy life. How can she divorce at this time? When I heard what happened, I admired my third aunt's courage to get out of the mire of marriage decisively, and I felt unworthy of my third uncle, Mr. Zhou's stupid behavior. As a man, he personally ruined his happiness for the rest of his life.

　　"In order to help my sister do business, I borrowed 200,000 yuan. When my sister disappeared, I was forced to leave home clean."

　　01. Married for 29 years, they are about to usher in a happy old age;

　　Twenty-nine years ago, my grandfather chose carefully and took a fancy to Mr. Zhou, the son of his best friend, as his son-in-law. Mr. Zhou is good at cooking and doing farm work. He has a skill, and his parents are good and easy to get along with. He is a good son-in-law candidate. So, under the matchmaking of grandpa and grandma, Sanyi married Mr. Zhou.

　　After getting married, Mr. Zhou changed several jobs and finally opened a restaurant in his hometown town, and the business was still booming. Three aunts have given birth to two sons, the eldest son was admitted to a junior college, became a wage earner, married and gave birth to a daughter, and the youngest son was admitted to a university and became a white-collar worker.

　　Four years ago, Sanyi retired, and she got a pension of 3,000 yuan every month, plus alimony from her eldest son's family, and her life was very comfortable. For Sanyi, as long as her youngest son's marriage is settled, she can live a happy life. When Mr. Zhou retires, their financial situation will be more affluent, and their happy old age will be waving to them.

　　Unfortunately, Mr. Zhou is not a person who knows how to cherish happiness.

　　02. The inexplicable debt collectors made her discover that her husband was hiding his major events;

　　In mid-December last year, Sanyi was doing housework at home when she suddenly received a strange phone call.

　　The person on the other side of the phone asked her if she was zhou li's daughter-in-law. After confirming, she asked her third aunt to pay back the money, claiming that Mr. Zhou borrowed 200,000 yuan from them and needed to repay 320,000 yuan.

　　Third aunt thought it was a fraudulent phone call, ignored them and hung up decisively. After that, Sanyi received several such calls, and the tone of the other party became more and more impolite. She even made it clear that she would come to the door to talk with them, and all of them were blacked out by Sanyi.

　　After being harassed by the phone for a few days, before Sanyi could ask Mr. Zhou about it, a group of debt collectors came to the door and went to the restaurant.

　　"They have my husband's ID photo, my phone number, my home address, and other loan evidence. It doesn't look fake."

　　The third aunt and the big cousin felt that something was wrong, so they called Mr. Zhou back and asked him to confront them.

　　As a result, what Sanyi never dreamed was that her husband really borrowed 200,000 from the lending company.

　　03. Borrowed 200,000 yuan for his sister, but her sister disappeared and he was in debt.

　　In desperation, Mr. Zhou told Sanyi what had happened.

　　It turned out that some time ago, Mr. Zhou's sister found him and proposed doing business. Mr. Zhou's sister has two sons, and the younger son has not yet married. In order to earn more money to buy a house for my youngest son and increase the weight of the bill, Mr. Zhou's sister wanted to do a big business and didn't have enough capital turnover, so they found Mr. Zhou and hoped that Mr. Zhou would help them borrow 200,000 yuan and they would pay it back.

　　"That's my elder sister, my sister, can I not help? How did I think they would cheat me? "

　　In the end, Mr. Zhou borrowed 200,000 yuan from the lending company in his own name and gave the money to his sister to do business. In order to prevent his wife from quarreling with himself, he concealed the matter of his third aunt. Unexpectedly, after Mr. Zhou's sister got the money, she lost the news and couldn't get in touch. The lending company doesn't care so much, and directly asks Mr. Zhou to pay back the money.

　　04. When his wife divorced and his son kicked her out of the house, he personally ruined his later life.

　　The husband borrowed 200,000 yuan behind his back, and all the money was spent on his sister, and her wife was kept in the dark all the time. How can Sanyi accept such a thing?

　　Looking at Mr. Zhou, who is still stubborn, three aunts are angry and strongly demand a divorce. The couple quarreled for half a month, and all the two sons of Sanyi chose to support their mother and asked their father to go out clean.

　　In the end, Mr. Zhou and his third aunt got a divorce certificate, and only got the old house in their hometown. As for other property, all went to his third aunt and his two sons.

　　"The money is borrowed by you and spent by your elder sister. It has nothing to do with me. Don't expect me to pay you back with my son. Whether you are working or begging, it has nothing to do with me. "

　　Now, Sanyi's two sons are only willing to give Mr. Zhou 1,000 yuan a month for old-age care, regardless of other things, and they are not willing to give him old-age care. With a debt of 320,000 yuan, Mr. Zhou is afraid that his old age will be bleak, but who can blame it?

　　If you can't handle the money relationship with your relatives well, it's hard to keep your happiness.

　　Zhou Guoping once said:

　　"All communication has an insurmountable final boundary. Between two people, this boundary is unclear, but it is certain. All troubles and conflicts start from unintentionally trying to break through this boundary."

　　When dealing with relatives, there are two boundaries that can never be broken. One is family affairs, and the other is money. Deal with your own affairs. Once outsiders intervene, it is easy to create more contradictions. Therefore, refusing to let relatives interfere in your own family affairs is something that everyone should keep in mind.

　　As for money, money is everyone's inverse scale, and it is the easiest to touch the sensitive nerves of lovers. After you get married, your income becomes the joint property of husband and wife, and your spouse has the right to ask questions and decide how to deal with the money at home. If you give more money to your relatives behind your spouse's back, you will touch the interests of your spouse and the conflict between husband and wife will be on the verge.

　　Born as a man, please know how to cherish your blessings and live your life well. Don't ruin your happiness for some people who will only add chaos to you.

　　Today's topic: Do you think Mr. Zhou's practice ruined his old age? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.