What was I thinking when I decided to cheat？

　　[Talking in a dream at night, listening in a dream]: The whole network has the same name, welcome to pay attention, please authorize the reprint, and plagiarism will be investigated! Looking forward to your story.

　　I saw a topic: "When a person decides to cheat, sometimes it is not because of his emotional problems."

　　In many cases, a person who is faced with the temptation of cheating and the choice of loyal feelings, many of his choices are just a subconscious judgment.

　　Human beings have a bottom line for certain things, but those who want someone to cheat will always find ways to get rid of the guilt of cheating.

　　I heard a story: when a couple were having dinner together, the man received a phone call from a female colleague.

　　I thought it was just a matter of work, and my wife didn't care, but the more I listened to it, the more I felt that the tone and questions raised by the female colleagues across the street were strange.

　　Obviously, both of them are married, but the way of dialogue is more like a pair of lovers who haven't seen each other for a long time. Because of this, the husband and wife had a big fight.

　　The wife thinks that it is a kind of harm to their marriage that the husband does not draw a clear line with the other party on the premise of knowing that the female colleague has no sense of boundary.

　　The husband feels that he is just communicating with his female colleagues. He thinks that he has done nothing to be sorry for his wife and marriage.

　　In real life, in fact, in most cases of betraying marriage or betraying love, at the beginning, the parties may not really realize that they have done something wrong.

　　It's not that their infidelity is innocent. Instead, what they think they are right is often the beginning of all mistakes.

　　I have seen a netizen with cheating experience share: Why should I choose cheating? The reason is simple, because life is boring.

　　After marriage, the impulse of falling in love was almost smoothed out by life, and I began to feel bored when I faced a life of two points and one line every day.

　　With the partner who used to talk about everything, except for some necessary trivial communication, it has become a situation with nothing to say.

　　This marriage has become a cage, so at this time, if there is any temptation to approach, that heart will start to stir.

　　Some people will say, "Then you obviously swore to your relatives and friends on both sides that you should always love the person in front of you. Is this all false?"

　　Perhaps not. The promise of loving each other at the beginning is true. Similarly, the heart that wants to pursue excitement, novelty and recognition now is also true.

　　Especially when the other half starts to become sensitive and suspicious and unreasonable. For those who want to cheat, this has become their best reason to cheat.

　　We have been repeating: "In any case, there are only zero and countless times of derailment. Therefore, they don't deserve to be forgiven. "

　　However, the actual situation is that some people have been relenting and choosing to forgive someone who has cheated or wants to cheat.

　　Just like there was a question on the Zhihu: "Why is it that in most cases, it was the mistress who was beaten at the scene of the derailment, not the derailed person?"

　　The reason is because, from the bottom of my heart, the person who caught the other half cheating still doesn't want this relationship that he has maintained for so long to be shattered by a third party.

　　No matter for their own face and interests, or to give their parents, their children an explanation or the right to keep the whole family, they can only do so.

　　In fact, from the very beginning, they knew that a cat who learned to cheat would only die for a while, but it would still be lucky.

　　They think that as long as I show my kindness, understanding and generosity, I can maintain each other's face, maintain this marriage relationship and protect my broken family.

　　Anyone can have friends of the opposite sex. However, friends should never be placed in a more important position than their partners.

　　There is a small chance that a cheating person will truly regret it. But he doesn't have remorse for his partner, but he is used to the present life.

　　Guilt can be worn away a little by purposeful forgiveness again and again. Signs of derailment can take root again after repeated temptations.

　　In other words, some small things that should not exist in marriage are traceable. The key is whether the two parties care and where the bottom line is.

　　Therefore, never be lucky, whether it is the derailed party or the derailed party. Because, whether your marriage is long-term or not needs to be managed seriously together.

　　Above, have a good dream and good night.