Gentle in appearance, perhaps the most ruthless in heart, how to identify fickle people？

　　People with gentle appearance often exude a warm atmosphere and seem to be the softest beings in the world.

　　However, with the passage of time, we can't help but find that some people are extremely cruel inside.

　　They seem gentle and calm on the surface, but they can destroy your trust and heart before you know it.

　　How to identify these fickle people has become a challenging task.

　　This paper will discuss the people who are gentle in appearance and vicious in heart from three aspects: emotional control, behavior performance and language use.

　　Emotional control

　　In interpersonal communication, emotional control is one of the psychological tactics that thin lovers often use.

　　They often appear with gentle appearance and voice, giving people a sense of affinity and care, but in fact they are good at manipulating other people's emotions.

　　They will use various means to gain others' sympathy and pity, and then achieve the purpose of controlling others.

　　This kind of control is often based on exerting pressure or making the other person feel guilty.

　　Thin lovers are good at using their exposed weaknesses to influence others' emotions.

　　They may deliberately reveal their own pain and plight, so as to arouse the sympathy of others and then firmly grasp each other's feelings.

　　At the same time, they will also use the pain of others to meet their own needs.

　　This kind of psychological tactics is often difficult to detect, because gentle appearance often gives people a feeling of closeness and trust.

　　Thin lovers are also good at manipulating others' emotions.

　　They have a profound insight into human nature and can easily perceive the weaknesses and sensitive points of others.

　　They will create emotional fluctuations in response to these weaknesses, so as to achieve the manipulation of each other's emotions.

　　This kind of psychological tactics is often implemented through dialogue and interaction, which often makes people unconsciously influenced.

　　Thin lovers will gently surround each other in the name of helping and caring for others, and slowly erode each other's autonomy and independence without being aware of it.

　　They will unconsciously impose their wishes and needs on others, making it impossible for them to refuse.

　　This kind of emotional manipulation will make people feel trapped and unable to extricate themselves, and at the same time, people will continue to fall into emotional dilemmas.

　　behavioral expression

　　The behavior of a thin lover is usually a sign of gentle appearance and vicious heart.

　　They tend to take advantage of others and be selfish, and pursue their own interests without caring about others' feelings and needs.

　　At the same time, they also turn a blind eye to the injuries and pains of others, and even get a morbid satisfaction from them.

　　Thin lovers often show excessive pursuit of the material needs of others.

　　They will use their gentle appearance to gain the wealth and resources of others, even at the expense of hurting each other's feelings and interests.

　　This kind of behavior is often manifested in their compulsive demands and endless demands on others, making it difficult for people to perceive their inner viciousness.

　　Thin lovers lack attention and understanding to the feelings and needs of others.

　　They often only pay attention to their own interests and feelings, while ignoring the feelings and needs of others.

　　This kind of behavior is often manifested in their indifference and disregard, which makes people feel neglected and used.

　　At the same time, they often lack understanding and sympathy for others, and are indifferent to the harm and pain of others.

　　Thin lovers often show a tendency to cheat and cover up.

　　They often hide their true nature through lies and hypocrisy, so that others can't see their true colors clearly.

　　This kind of behavior is often manifested in their perfect image and gentle performance in front of outsiders, while ignoring their own responsibility and morality.

　　Language use

　　In communication, thin lovers often use a set of carefully designed language skills to confuse others.

　　They know how to use words and expressions, which make people feel wrong and exert pressure and influence on others inadvertently.

　　Thin lovers are good at manipulating others' emotions by using unconventional expressions.

　　They will use vague and ambiguous words and sentences, which makes people feel confused and confused in communication.

　　This kind of manipulation often makes the other person misunderstand his own meaning, thus getting the desired result of the thin lover.

　　Thin lovers manipulate other people's emotions through changes in tone and voice.

　　They are good at using different intonations and rhythms to guide others' emotions and thinking, so that the other party is unconsciously influenced.

　　This kind of language manipulation is often manifested in the frequent change of tone and voice in communication, which makes the other party feel powerless and irresistible.

　　Thin lovers are good at using hypocrisy and exaggerated boasting to cover up their true nature.

　　They often gain admiration and appreciation from others by exaggerating their achievements and talents.

　　This hypocritical rhetoric often makes people mistakenly think that they are sincere and noble people, while ignoring their inner cruelty and indifference.

　　It is not easy to identify a thin lover who is gentle in appearance and vicious in heart.

　　They can often hide their true nature in their words and deeds, giving people a feeling of gentleness and closeness.

　　However, by observing emotional control, behavior and language use, we can gradually gain insight into their inner viciousness and indifference.

　　Being rational and alert in interpersonal communication and not trusting others' appearance easily can reduce the possibility of being hurt by a thin lover.

　　In addition, we should also establish close relationships with sincere and caring people, so as to gain more support and security.