The reality of middle-aged people： for the rest of my life, I have to endure things, be cruel and save money.

　　"Middle age is an age of laughter. It is necessary to win the favor of the elderly, but also to be a good example for children, constantly catering to the boss's mind, and for the sake of livelihood and face, the house and car tickets are constantly circling."

　　The sufferings of middle-aged people are vividly described by Jiang Wen in "Middle Age on Dog Day".

　　Middle age is the most critical turning point in life, not only to bear the burden of life, but also to face physical and mental changes.

　　Therefore, when people reach middle age, they need to have a firm mind and transparent wisdom.

　　If you do the following three points, your life after middle age will be smoother and more comfortable.

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　　one

　　Emotional stability, can bear things.

　　Life is often unhappy, and life is always composed of various difficulties and troubles.

　　In the face of life, no one can be completely arbitrary.

　　Life is like the Five Fingers Mountain of the Tathagata, and the Monkey King, who can make a scene in heaven, can't get rid of its restrictions and constraints.

　　Therefore, absolute freedom and willfulness do not exist. The first lesson for adults is patience.

　　For example, Yu Minhong in New Oriental.

　　A few years ago, when New Oriental was facing the closure, Yu Minhong just silently donated all the teaching desks and chairs to the children in the mountainous area, and then thought about the next step.

　　He said:

　　"My mother began to suffer from Alzheimer's disease at the age of 82. I am 60 years old and have at least 20 years to work."

　　Being a middle-aged person with stable emotions, enduring temporary frustration and loneliness, and slowly sorting things out, you will have a chance to find a way.

　　Two

　　Self-reliance and self-improvement, people should be ruthless.

　　What can give us a sense of security in a changing society?

　　Our own.

　　"There has never been a savior, nor does it rely on the immortal emperor. To create human happiness, it depends on ourselves."

　　This lyric in The Internationale is a simple interpretation of this truth.

　　Relying on the mountain will fall, relying on everyone to run, wanting to change your destiny, or gaining the greatest sense of security, the most reliable way is always to rely on yourself.

　　Let's talk about Yu Minhong.

　　From the bleak and miserable New Oriental a few years ago to the selection of the Oriental which is now in full swing, Yu Minhong relies entirely on himself.

　　After paying all the employees of New Oriental, Yu Minhong, with the last few employees, re-established the team and started the journey of selling goods.

　　At that time, the whole network was full of ridicule, and everything was ugly.

　　The most typical example is that a good intellectual, instead of teaching and educating people, becomes a salesman, which is really a waste of talents and social resources.

　　Few people are optimistic about Yu Minhong's new venture, but Yu Minhong has embarked on a new road, not only saving the whole New Oriental by Oriental selection, but also preparing to launch the next cultural tourism project.

　　It is better to ask for yourself than to rely on others. In the face of difficulties in middle age, it is better to be a self-reliant person and force yourself.

　　Life is like this. There are never any shortcuts, and everything needs to be done by yourself.

　　three

　　Restrain your desires and save your money.

　　"Spending money is like a mountain, making money is like reeling."

　　Middle-aged people began to laugh at themselves with this sentence.

　　Money is not everything, but without it, you can't do anything.

　　Parents are getting older and older, and they need money for both daily filial piety and critical care.

　　The child is not yet independent. Living expenses, education expenses, preparation for marriage ... are all sums of money. The title of "Gold Swallowing Beast" is not a hollow reputation.

　　In the middle, there is yourself.

　　When people reach middle age, they should not only bear the responsibility of having the old and the young, but also start to consider their future pension life.

　　Children can't be counted on.

　　Nowadays, the pressure of life is so great that it is not easy for children to stand on their own feet and make their own decisions. Don't expect too much from raising children to prevent old age. The greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment.

　　Can do, can only be a sum of money, bit by bit.

　　It is the best embodiment of a middle-aged man's wisdom to control his desires, cover his pockets, save for his parents' children's daily needs and prepare for his later life.