When people reach middle age, polish themselves and don't get these three ＂poor habits＂

　　In the life of middle-aged people, we often meet the peak of career and family. However, at the same time, we are easy to fall into some "poor habits", which will limit our thinking, bind our actions and hinder us from fully exploring our potential.

　　Therefore, we need to think deeply and be alert to the existence of these "poor habits" in order to get rid of ordinary life and try to change ourselves.

　　Excessive consumption fetters freedom.

　　Being rich does not mean having endless wealth and material things, but inner peace and freedom. However, when we excessively pursue material comforts and pay too much attention to external voices and expectations, we will fall into the quagmire of consumerism. This kind of consumption habit limits our thinking and action, so that we can't really feel the inner satisfaction and growth.

　　Therefore, we need to examine our consumption concept. We are often driven by the pressure of advertising and social interaction, and it is very easy for us to spend constantly in pursuit of social recognition and vanity. This not only wastes money, but also deprives us of our freedom invisibly.

　　We should be clear about our values and goals, combine the purchase behavior with self-realization, and avoid making consumption our slave.

　　At the same time, we also need to establish correct values. The root of excessive consumption lies in the excessive pursuit of material things. Therefore, through careful consideration, we need to establish a positive value that is beneficial to inner satisfaction and take it as the guide of our consumption. This can not only avoid the economic burden caused by excessive consumption, but also help us find our own inner happiness and satisfaction.

　　In addition, we also need to cultivate rational consumption habits. We should buy things carefully and avoid blindly following the trend and impulsive consumption. According to our actual demand and economic situation, we should make scientific and reasonable consumption planning and budget. Only with rational thinking and action can we get rid of the dilemma of excessive consumption and rebuild our inner freedom.

　　Excessive anxiety hinders thinking.

　　In the fast-paced urban life, we are often troubled by anxiety. Anxiety comes from worrying about the future and paying too much attention to others' evaluation. It fetters our thinking and restricts our actions.

　　However, only in a state of carefree mind and free thinking can we show our outstanding talents and creativity. Therefore, we need to get rid of excessive anxiety and constantly polish ourselves.

　　We need to adjust our attitude towards the future. Anxiety often stems from excessive worry about future results. However, we can't predict the future development and results, so we don't need to set the premise of anxiety for the future too early. We should let go of our anxiety, focus on the present, face every day and every moment, and welcome the future with a positive attitude and actions.

　　We need to embrace uncertainty. Anxiety stems from our desire to control everything and the future. However, the reality is complex and changeable, and we can't control everything. We should learn to accept uncertainty and let go of the desire for excessive control, so as to embrace the diversity and infinite possibilities of the world.

　　Besides, we need to cultivate inner peace. Anxiety often stems from inner unrest, and our thoughts are confused, so we can't concentrate and think calmly.

　　Therefore, we need to consciously adjust our inner state and seek peace and tranquility. Through meditation, exercise or getting close to nature, let your heart return to calm, so as to get rid of the bondage of anxiety.

　　Excessive judgment limits emotion.

　　In the life of middle-aged people, we often face heavy pressure and expectation from family and society, which easily leads us to judge ourselves and others too much.

　　However, when we have high expectations and harsh judgments on ourselves and others, we deprive ourselves and others of their freedom of emotional expression and development, which limits our thinking and action.

　　Therefore, we need to be aware of the dangers of over-evaluation and seek ways to return to truth and tolerance.

　　We need to accept our imperfections. Excessive judgment stems from high expectations and harsh requirements for yourself. However, we need to understand that we and others are imperfect, and we all have emotional faults and regrets. Only by accepting our imperfections can we truly express our feelings and find inner balance and freedom.

　　We need to learn to put ourselves in other's shoes. Judging comes from our inherent egotism, which means that we only pay attention to our own interests and opinions. However, we should try to put ourselves in the other's shoes and understand and accept it from the perspective of others. Only by loving and being kind to others can we truly experience inner tolerance and freedom.

　　We need to find emotional outlets. Overjudging often stems from our inability to truly express our feelings. We should learn to fully express our emotions, and find the outlet of emotions through communication with others and artistic creation. Only by truly expressing our emotions can we get rid of the shackles of excessive judgment and let the freedom of emotions bloom in our hearts.

　　In middle age, we need to polish ourselves, think deeply and be alert to the existence of "poor habits". Excessive consumption, excessive anxiety and excessive judgment, these habits will limit our thinking and bind our actions.

　　Therefore, we should examine our own consumption concepts and cultivate rational consumption habits; Adjust the attitude towards the future, embrace uncertainty and cultivate inner peace; At the same time, accept your own imperfections, learn to put yourself in the other's shoes, and find an emotional outlet.

　　Only in this way can we polish ourselves in middle age and pursue inner freedom and growth.