Don't be that cheap person in any relationship.

　　Author: Yi Ao (author of rich books)

　　In life, we often have such confusion:? ? ? ?

　　Why do I give priority to others in everything, but others are ungrateful?

　　Why did I pay so much for my partner, and he finally left me?

　　The truth often sounds cruel, but it is precisely because of your infinite connivance that the other party has given you opportunities to hurt you again and again.

　　When there is no cost to make mistakes and no cost to hurt, then your efforts will not be cherished.

　　There are many unpredictable people in this world, and it is difficult for people to adjust their opinions. We don't have to compromise ourselves in order to fulfill others.

　　In any relationship, it is most important to have a good sense of proportion. Don't be that cheap person.

　　Not all efforts can be exchanged for smiling faces.?

　　In tie ning's novel how far is it forever, my cousin Bai dasheng is a typical flattering personality.

　　As a child, she has been working hard to take care of her grandmother and pour the shit on her.

　　But even so, she is not liked by her grandmother, and she is often scolded by her grandmother. But every time, she chose to submit to humiliation.

　　The same is true at school. In the face of bullying and teasing by her classmates, she still doesn't know how to resist, but silently suffers.

　　After growing up and falling in love, she will give her heart and lungs in every relationship without making any reservations. But one boyfriend after another is still not satisfied, and even more and more dislikes her.

　　Finally, when a man came to her with his and another woman's children in his arms, although she wanted to refuse, she finally relented and agreed to him.

　　One thing that Bai Da Province has done the most in his life is to make concessions.

　　Whether facing relatives, friends, or lovers, she is always used to putting herself in a low position, meeting the needs of others and taking care of their emotions first.

　　But in the end, I didn't win a good home for myself, but I lived more and more tired.

　　I quite agree with this sentence: "You build your self-worth on the recognition of others, and others can use this recognition to squeeze you."

　　Every humble flattery will only make our sense of scarcity and helplessness magnified and strengthened again, and finally let you fall into a vicious circle.

　　Those who are too eager for recognition will not get the attention of others, but will only get the arrogance and disdain of others.

　　Life is too short to live to meet everyone's expectations.

　　Learn to be cool thin and be indifferent, and you will find that the world will be gentle with you.

　　Excessive tolerance will only be pinched as a soft persimmon.

　　In any relationship, if we just swallow our pride, we are likely to face the risk of being humiliated.

　　In your countless concessions and forbearance to others, there is a stab in the back of others' heart.

　　Only by being more car-scrapping and learning to be a "difficult person" will the future life not be held by others.

　　In the TV series "We Can't Be Beasts", the protagonist Deep Sea Crystal leads a humble life because of excessive tolerance.

　　At work, she is smiling, gentle and considerate to everyone.

　　In the face of a boss with a hot temper and poor management, Jing took all the work to herself. In addition, she has to do some chores such as serving tea and delivering water, booking air tickets and hotels.

　　In the company, some colleagues who always excuse their incompetence also push their unfinished work to Jing. Even she has to take the blame for her colleagues who made mistakes and humbly apologize to customers.

　　Over time, her image of "good old man" has been deeply rooted in her heart. Everyone is used to throwing it at her as soon as they encounter problems, so that they can be happy at leisure.

　　Her soft heart not only makes others push their luck, but also makes herself exhausted and on the verge of collapse.

　　In love, Jing also endured bullying from her boyfriend for a long time. Because the boyfriend promised his ex-girlfriend that she could live in her own house until she found a job.

　　As a current girlfriend, Jing silently endured living under the same roof with his ex-girlfriend.

　　Writer Ma De said: "You don't have to stab people, but you must have thorns."

　　In life, you are always embarrassed to refuse other people's requests and help.

　　Over time, you will be labeled as resigned and at the mercy of others.

　　When others keep bullying you, learn to turn your face, not to be cruel to others, but to protect your armor.

　　Born as a man, we need to be friendly and beautiful, but we can't lack the courage to refuse boldly.

　　Only by putting away your kindness and wearing thorns can you win the respect of others.

　　Born to be human, you should have the courage to be hated.

　　Fu Seoul said in the program "Let's talk about it": "Only the bottom self-confidence can solve this matter, and we must have the rationality that people hate."? ? ?

　　In interpersonal communication, no matter how excellent you are, you can't be liked by everyone.

　　The more you take care of these cold words around you, the more you will fall into the whirlpool of self-blame and get farther and farther away from happiness.

　　You know, in fact, we should be more concerned about how to live our own lives than what others think of us.

　　Netizen @ Jiang Xiaoyu shared a story of her best friend.

　　When she first became a supervisor, she was particularly unpopular with the employees below for a while.

　　The reason is that she put forward some good suggestions in her work, but after implementation, it will naturally increase the workload of some old employees.

　　Therefore, those old employees expressed their dissatisfaction with her in secret. She arranged the work, they also perfunctory, don't care.

　　Although her relationship with those old employees is getting more and more stiff, and she often hears them sneering at her behind her back, she still insists on implementing her own plan.

　　A few months later, her new plan achieved great results. The performance of the old employees has improved, and the wages have also risen. The original rigid situation has gradually changed.

　　Some old employees began to please her, approach her and learn from her, and the relationship between colleagues gradually began to ease.

　　Everyone on the road of life, has more or less experienced the moment of being suspected, denied, and even hit.

　　There are many fetters on the road of life, but if you want to get real happiness and freedom, you must have the courage to be hated.

　　At any time, don't give your choice in life to others.

　　You can live a unique and gorgeous life without fear of others' eyes and being hated.

　　Never be a cheap man.

　　There is a line in "The Grand Master":

　　"When cooking soup, you should pay attention to the heat. If the heat is not enough, it is difficult to adjust. If the heat is over, things will be burnt."

　　The same is true with people. Any long-term relationship is inseparable from the word "moderation".

　　If you always worry about what other people are thinking and examine yourself, the result will be an infinite loop.

　　It is an adult's real sobriety to raise his posture and not cater to everything.

　　When we adopt live high's attitude, others will regard us with special respect, and respect and love will come in droves.

　　In the second half of life, I hope you and I can both build bottom confidence and have a high quality life.

　　About the author: Yi Ao, author of Fu Shu, this article: Fu Shu, the copyright of this article belongs to Fu Shu, and it shall not be reproduced without authorization, and infringement shall be investigated.