Self-healing, self-improvement self-crossing.

　　When the gecko is in danger, it will take the initiative to break its tail to attract natural enemies and let the body escape.

　　Then hide and secrete a hormone to stimulate regenerative cells and grow a tail again.

　　After recovering, it continued to come out to prey on mosquitoes.

　　The ancients highly praised the behavior of gecko's tail-cutting regeneration: it can heal itself after injury and remain self-reliant after hibernation.

　　Every adult should also have the self-healing ability of gecko.

　　Facing the hardships of life, know how to heal yourself, repair yourself and live as your own sun.

　　Self-abandonment, self-abandonment

　　Recently, the popular movie "Disappeared She", in which the hero designs and kills his wife Li Muzi for hundreds of millions of inheritance.

　　When exposed, he shouted hysterically: blame his wife for not continuing to help him pay back the money; Complain that parents have no ability; Hate that I was born in the wrong baby.

　　In fact, Li Muzi helped him pay off tens of millions of gambling debts and let him take over his own business.

　　But he Fei never thought about changing himself, and in the constant degradation, he gave up the life that could have been happy.

　　Think carefully, there are many people like He Fei in life who always attribute their mistakes and frustrations to external factors.

　　I know that I should work hard, but I refuse to change my procrastination. When I am eliminated, I still complain about unfair life.

　　I know that I should live a healthy life, but I refuse to control my desires. When I am afflicted with all kinds of diseases, I still lament the misfortune of my life.

　　Heaven saves those who save themselves, and heaven abandons those who abandon themselves.

　　No one can stop you from moving towards your goal unless your goal is to fall.

　　There is a story in Ji Xiaolan.

　　A beggar on the street, skinny and ragged, has been crying about how miserable he is, attracting many good people to give alms.

　　In order to prove the ugliness of human nature to Ji Xiaolan, He Shen bought food, new clothes and a set of shoes repairing tools for beggars.

　　Unexpectedly, the little beggar began to curse He Shen, saying that he had filled his stomach, put on new clothes, and had tools to make a living, so no one would give him charity any more.

　　Ji Xiaolan startled and walked away bitterly.

　　A few days later, Ji Xiaolan passed by this street again, and the little beggar was still begging, crying about his misery, complaining about the injustice of the world, and lamenting that no good-hearted person was willing to help himself.

　　Those who complain about the sky have no ambition, and those who complain about the sky have poor hearts.

　　Just like the attribution theory in psychology: if a person is used to attributing other people's success and his own failure to external factors, then he will gradually get used to giving up his efforts and his own life.

　　When a person begins to give up on himself, no one can save him.

　　In the face of life's unhappiness, if you always indulge in the negative energy of self-abandonment, life will never turn for the better.

　　Self-healing

　　Yang Jiang once said: "No matter when, you must believe that the only person who can really cure yourself is yourself."

　　After half a life, I found that it is true.

　　It's not that people are indifferent. It's just that everyone has their own life to live. In the face of many difficulties, they still care about themselves and talk about others.

　　It is the normal state for adults to silently bear negative emotions and slowly heal their inner pain when they are helpless at the bottom.

　　After Tao Yong was chopped by thugs in 2020, many people thought that he would sink.

　　However, Tao Yong was not immersed in sadness and anger. After his hand was healed, he still sat in the clinic to save lives.

　　At first, Tao Yong would also complain, hate, and be confused.

　　But later, he only felt lucky:

　　If there were no colleagues who stopped the gangsters, they might be hurt more seriously;

　　If no passerby sticks out his foot to trip up the gangster, he may not be able to escape.

　　If there is no patient who helps to block the knife, the wound close to the artery on the back of his head may eventually become a fatal knife ...

　　It is these thoughts that slowly cured his negative emotions and made him walk out of the pain and bravely face a new life.

　　All beings suffer, and the world will not be lenient to you because of your crying and your kindness.

　　If you want to cross the hardships of life and cross the pass, you can only rely on yourself.

　　As said in "Mr. Toad goes to see a psychiatrist":

　　"No matter how good psychological counseling is, it is all out of the willingness of the patient. The process of healing is to let you find the answer yourself. "

　　Every adult should learn to be his own doctor, know how to lick his wounds, embrace scars and loss, and seek inner healing.

　　Then be humble, unhurried, and grow freely at the right pace.

　　Self-improvement, self-reliance

　　Just after graduation, I read a book called Beggar's Daughter.

　　The author Lai Dongjin was born in a broken family.

　　My father was a blind beggar. At the age of 32, he found a 13-year-old homeless girl with severe mental retardation, adopted her and married her, and gave birth to 12 brothers and sisters, including Lai Dongjin.

　　A family of fourteen lives on Lai Dongjin's begging.

　　Many times, because he can't get food, he has to steal the food that others feed their dogs and drink the water in the drinking ditch ...

　　I have no fixed place since I was a child. I have slept in cemeteries, ruined temples and pigsty for 20 years, and I have been with insects, ants and skeletons all the year round.

　　But in this unimaginable living environment, Lai Dongjin did not give up his life.

　　He learned to read by himself by picking up the books he got from begging. Many people remember this little beggar who likes reading books and will deliberately leave him unwanted books and magazines.

　　When he grew up, he entered the fire protection equipment company and became the factory director step by step from a small worker.

　　Later, he wrote his own experience into books and won the "Man of the Hour Award", which inspired countless contemporary people.

　　Some people say that it is suffering that makes Lai Dongjin.

　　But suffering is a grave for those who abandon themselves, and a ferry for those who strive for self-improvement.

　　There is a cloud in "Warning Words": "When people go against the sky, there is no way out."

　　On the road of life, there will be ups and downs, ups and downs, and you will be caught in a maze, at a loss and helpless.

　　The result depends on how we cross the river.

　　Lu Hong, the person who moved China in 2022, suffered from cerebellar nerve damage and physical disability caused by high fever when he was a child, and his father died early due to illness.

　　Relying on self-improvement, he gradually expanded his business from opening a photo studio and processing electronic photo albums to producing paper photo albums.

　　Not only did he carry the burden of supporting his family with his disabled body, but he also provided jobs for 21 disabled people.

　　Nowadays, Lu Hong's factory has become a well-known poverty alleviation and entrepreneurship base for the disabled.

　　A truly strong person can always temper stronger vitality from adversity.

　　If you keep your faith, when you fall into the trough, it is also the time to rise.

　　Even if you are in an unfavorable environment, you can find something beneficial to yourself, face it directly, accept it and change it.

　　When you are tired, take a break and continue on your way;

　　After falling, pat the dust and move on.

　　In the face of the trough, if you blindly fall into internal friction, you will only make yourself more and more sad.

　　Precipitate yourself and find a breakthrough in life, so as to spend the gloomy moment of life.

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　　Cai Kangyong once said: "The stronger a person's self-healing ability, the more likely he is to be close to happiness."

　　The withering and desolation of a flower can't last the whole spring, and a setback can't ruin the whole life.

　　Maybe you are at a low point and feel lost; Maybe you're still struggling, gritting your teeth.

　　But please always believe: heal the wounds in your heart and get through the current difficulties, and all the good things will come as promised.

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