The top self-discipline of adults is to lower expectations of others.

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　　In "Qi Pa Shuo", there is a debate: "If your leader has been promoted recently, do you want to compete with him?"

　　Netizens are divided into two groups: one group is supportive and feels that they should compete with leaders in order to prove their value; The other school is against it, and thinks it is unnecessary. When a leader is promoted, he should work with peace of mind.

　　In fact, both views are reasonable.

　　If we care too much about what others think of us, we will only live very tired. Everyone has his own way to go, and no one can accompany you to the whole journey.

　　When you live for others for too long, you will forget what you really want. We still have to be a person with a bottom line and minimize expectations of others.

　　In this way, we can live comfortably and freely without wronged ourselves.

　　I have read a sentence: "The greatest self-discipline of people is to lower expectations of others."

　　In "The Story of Qi Pa", there is a debate: "My partner has not explained everything clearly. Should I believe him?"

　　At that time, Ma Dong asked Fu Seoul a question: "Why do you think your partner didn't explain everything clearly?"

　　Fu Seoul replied: "He is a very responsible person, and it is impossible to explain everything clearly."

　　In marriage, we should handle our own affairs well and don't leave everything to others.

　　Because everyone has their own life, not everyone revolves around you.

　　Instead of giving everything to others, learn to let go of others and make yourself less burdened.

　　In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Chen Junsheng has been complaining that his wife Luo Zijun doesn't understand herself, thinking that she only spends money but can't make money.

　　It was not until Chen Junsheng cheated that Luo Zijun realized that all her previous efforts were wrong.

　　Luo Zijun is very strong at work, and she has been supporting this family all along.

　　Chen Junsheng, on the other hand, thinks that women should do laundry, cook and take care of children. He has done enough.

　　Finally they divorced.

　　Luo Zijun didn't give anything, but she always focused all her attention on Chen Junsheng, but forgot that she should also grow up.

　　In fact, many times, we are not incapable of doing this, but defeated by our inner fears.

　　We can't let fear control our thoughts and actions.

　　Therefore, you should learn to be your own master and learn to love yourself in order to love others better.

　　Many people think that people who make themselves unhappy are selfish.

　　Actually, it is not.

　　In fact, only by learning to be a "selfish" person can we live more comfortably.

　　Quiet is a "selfish" person in the popular variety show "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves" in recent years.

　　She has always stressed that she is a person who enjoys her life very much.

　　Writer Yu Hua said: "When we treat the world fiercely, the world suddenly becomes gentle."

　　Lower your expectations of others, and you will find that the beauty of life is far more than the present.

　　When you lower your expectations of others and don't care too much about gains and losses, you will find that life is actually very simple.

　　It is better to let yourself go than to embarrass others.

　　The less you expect others' understanding and recognition, the simpler life will be.

　　Writer Ma De once said, "It takes us two years to learn to speak, but it takes us a lifetime to learn to shut up."

　　That's true.

　　The greatest self-discipline in life is to know how to restrain yourself and lower expectations of others.

　　Don't overestimate your relationship with anyone, and don't underestimate your ability.

　　Instead of making yourself so tired, it is better to minimize your expectations and live more comfortably.

　　In this world, everyone is unique.

　　Everyone has his own bright spots and advantages. We should learn to appreciate the advantages of others instead of demanding others blindly.

　　Life is too short, don't waste time and energy on someone who isn't worth it.

　　You know: your energy is limited. When you focus on others, you will ignore your own needs.

　　The rest of my life is still long. May we all learn to respect ourselves and live ourselves.

　　About the author:

　　Sunny wind, rational look at the world, warm look at love, I hope my words can touch you and bring you warmth.