Chatting with people, talking about three things about yourself as little as possible, is easy to miss the good news and suffer misfortune.

　　Man is a social animal, and socialization is the basic social need of man.

　　It is essential to communicate with people and talk about things, which is one of the ways to establish social networks and enhance mutual feelings.

　　But some topics should be avoided as much as possible. Even if it is involved, don't discuss it too much.

　　Otherwise, it is easy to bury a dark mine in your life.

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　　(updated at 12:30 or 17:30)

　　one

　　Talk less about your family situation.

　　People are unequal from the moment they are born.

　　Some people were born in Rome, others will never get to Rome.

　　Different family backgrounds have caused different starting lines in life. And this is something we can't choose and change.

　　What we can do, besides accepting, is to talk as little as possible.

　　Human nature is complex, often like an abyss, unfathomable and impossible to look directly at.

　　As Hu Shi said:

　　"The biggest evil of human nature is to hate you and laugh at you. I think you are poor, but I am afraid you are rich. Bully you weak, envy you strong. "

　　If you have a good family and talk too much when chatting with others, others will think that you are showing off your wealth and will attract others' jealousy.

　　Envy is human nature and exists almost all the time.

　　If you are from a poor family, it is even more unnecessary to disclose too much information.

　　Bullying the weak and being afraid of the hard, worshiping the high and stepping on the low are people's bad habits.

　　If you are too far away from other people's family and talk too much, you will easily be watched with colored glasses, and you will easily become a "bottom person" in the circle.

　　Once you are treated like this, you will only have one result: the good things are not for you, and the bad things are all for you.

　　Look at all kinds of campus bullying in real life, and you will understand.

　　Therefore, no matter whether the family is rich or poor, it is best not to take the initiative to talk to others.

　　Two

　　Talk less about your troubles.

　　Life is a training ground, and everyone has to experience their own joys and sorrows.

　　But in life, there are always some people who like to pour out their troubles to others and tell them all about themselves.

　　You share your worries and frustrations with others and try to get their attention.

　　However, worry is emotional garbage.

　　If you dump emotional garbage on others regardless, you can only get two results with high probability.

　　At first, others did pay attention to you, giving you sympathy and comfort, and may even bow a sympathetic tear for you.

　　But after several times, your complaint becomes a kind of noise.

　　Others will become numb, impatient, and even become, looking at you like a joke.

　　Xianglinsao written by Mr. Lu Xun is typical.

　　Sister Xianglin told people over and over again the pain of losing her husband and children, and finally she only got disdain, contempt and ridicule from others.

　　One possible result is that others carry your emotional garbage and become your emotional garbage dump, and his psychological energy will be consumed by you little by little. In the end, others will become very tired and feel that life has been dragged down by you, so they will soon lose patience and stop interacting with you.

　　The energy in people's hearts is limited, and no one likes negative people who are full of negative energy.

　　No one has the obligation to take care of you, even your family and partner.

　　Remember the words of Buddhism, all beings are suffering, and they have to fend for themselves.

　　Everyone has his own troubles and worries, and it is himself who can finally solve his own pain.

　　This is your own life lesson.

　　Be yourself, don't consume others, and don't let others consume yourself.

　　three

　　Talk less about your future plans.

　　"Things are done in secret, and words are defeated."

　　This is what Han Feizi taught the world.

　　The success of a thing is often due to prudence. The more people talk, the more people talk, and the less likely it is to succeed.

　　This is also a truth confirmed by life.

　　If you want to accomplish something, plan it silently in your mind, and then work hard towards the goal step by step and do it in a down-to-earth manner.

　　Telling others about distant things in advance will only end in two ways.

　　First of all, it is leaked too early, and your determination and direction of doing things are easily disturbed.

　　Many people are often not necessarily powerful. As the saying goes, many people are talkative and have different opinions. One teacher has one method and one monk has one scripture. Too many people express their opinions, which often makes you feel at a loss.

　　On the other hand, if you give the blue picture to others before you do it, others will not necessarily envy but be jealous when it is done in the future. If you don't succeed in the future, others may laugh and ridicule you in return.

　　"I told you not to do this at the beginning. Who told you not to listen to me at the beginning?"

　　Something like this may often be on the tip of my tongue.

　　Will it make you feel uncomfortable? Of course it hurts.

　　When dealing with people, you must have principles. There must be a bottom line between what to share and what to hide.

　　Be careful what you say and do, and decide after thinking, so that the blessings of life will not be leaked out because you say too much.