Who likes loneliness, but is fed up with disappointment？

　　Recently, I saw a passage that actor Wang Zhiwen once said is quite thorough: "Once a person is experienced enough not to talk, argue, curry favor with, please anyone, lose interest in making friends, lose the excitement of parties, become more and more silent, even don't bother to pretend to take part in accidental amusement, and like to be alone, then you will understand human nature thoroughly and see through life."

　　I remember that when I was young and frivolous, I always liked to make so-called contacts. It seems that I can't get along with people without knowing a few people, so I always take part in various roadshows and parties, and I am proud to know so-called successful people, but what can I do in the end? Bridge to bridge, road to road, others' success and failure have nothing to do with you! Watching others build tall buildings, entertain guests, and buildings collapse, the glory of the past is fleeting, as if nothing had happened.

　　I accidentally reached middle age, and the teenager who once wanted to be all-powerful, is now gray-haired. At this age, I like loneliness more and more. It is not loneliness to die, but a kind of inner peace. I am my own here. I don't have to think too much about the hustle and bustle of the world, and I don't have to care about the intertwined. There is no complicated intrigue, and some are just inner peace. Sometimes I wonder why people live. Money, fame, status, or material needs? As for the universe, the earth is like a drop in the ocean, or a grain of dust. Life is only 30,000 days, and some things are not brought with us, so why should we be too persistent? Looking back, Qin Shihuang, who swallowed Wan Li like a tiger, has not yet returned to the dust, and history has gone down in history. With the passage of time, everything may slowly disappear.

　　Once a person reaches middle age, he will talk less and less, and some parties will gradually move away, because he knows that all this is meaningless to flatter each other. To enjoy loneliness is not to die alone. We can find something we like, such as reading and writing in Chinese calligraphy, or we can plant flowers, raise some small fish and write some articles. Interest is cultivated by yourself. You can do whatever you like. If you can't find it, you can meditate and sublimate your mind. As the saying goes, we don't want to talk, don't flatter, don't please, and lose interest in socializing. It's just that we want to give ourselves time and space and follow our inner call.

　　The society is cruel, and people are becoming more and more realistic. In this materialistic era, people look to money, and everything is for the purpose of money, as if they had money and left everything. Therefore, there is a saying in the society that if you can solve things with money, don't make noise. There is another saying, problems that can be solved with money are not problems. What a straightforward statement, but it is also the most pertinent suggestion. Whether society has changed or people's hearts have changed, I can't say clearly, and I don't want to know clearly. Even if you find the answer, what can you do? You have to follow a regular plan. In the Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu told people to follow the trend and do nothing. Wang Yangming in the Ming Dynasty also said that knowledge and practice should be integrated, but how many people can really do it? While we talk about wanting quietism, we are also grabbing it. People's desires are endless. No matter how much you have, you still want more. This may be human nature!

　　Whether it's enjoying loneliness or reducing meaningless social activities, it's just a break from your inner world. Break up regularly and be organized. There is a kind of fatigue, which makes the brain a mess; There is a kind of upset that clothes and supplies are lost everywhere; There is a relationship, which is called cutting without stopping. Reducing ineffective social interaction, throwing away useless things regularly and making our life cleaner and brighter may bring us unexpected surprises.

　　Everyone will go through a lonely time, with no support and no help, only we work hard quietly. In loneliness, we talk to our truest selves, meditate on our future, and look for a stronger self. Loneliness is the normal state of life, and learning to enjoy loneliness is the attitude we should have. Slowly, we will be more awake and more powerful, and get through those confusions and uncertainties.