People who are really good are all turning inward (worth reading)

　　In the fifth season of the talk show conference, the contestant Bird Bird once said this:

　　"I am a person who wants to lie down when I roll, want to roll when I lie down, always be young, and always be in a dilemma."

　　The present situation of most people's life is nothing more than this. They can't roll up, lie down and lie uneven, and live in such a dilemma.

　　If a person is in such a state for a long time, self-friction and self-involution will continue.

　　Sooner or later, you will feel depressed and upset, and eventually you will miss more.

　　Professor Liu Qing of Peking University once said:

　　"involution is a price to pay."

　　The most taboo for people is to think too much, do too little, and think well.

　　People who are really powerful are all turning their backs, but with a state of mind that they don't escape, entangle or think much.

　　In this way, cultivate your mind, be yourself quietly, be yourself calmly, and be yourself consciously for a long time.

　　In the end, you will find that all the beautiful things you want will come as scheduled.

　　Anti-involution lies in lowering expectations first.

　　The reason why many people fall into a mood of escape, internal friction, entanglement and pain is because at the beginning, they treated life with high expectations.

　　Therefore, the higher the expectation, the more excited you are at first, so that the greater the disappointment in the end, the whole person will fade.

　　After such a period of time, I found that life was getting harder and harder, and I was alert that I could no longer muddle along like this, and then I made up my mind to learn from the mistakes and not to mess up.

　　However, it didn't take long for me to be confused again, and I couldn't find the direction of life again, and I couldn't stick to it in the end.

　　In fact, living so hard and so embarrassing and painful is enough to show that I have never lowered my requirements and always have a mentality of once and for all.

　　Because when a person instinctively feels that the gap between reality and ideal is too big, then his heart will undoubtedly feel lost and uncomfortable.

　　Even when I can't adjust my mentality and accept the truth for a while, I just lie flat and hang out in despair.

　　Don't set your goals too high at first, but start with small goals, so that we can go steady step by step and see the effect, and finally stick to it for a long time bit by bit.

　　The same thing, keep a stable output for a long time, and you will definitely become an expert in the end.

　　Because if a person grows up with a flowing attitude and a good state, the shining moment of life will always come for you.

　　Writer Lao Yang's owl said:

　　"A happy life is not to forget the present in an evasive way, but to face the problem in a dead way."

　　Many people, just because they have been hovering between rolling and lying, have not come up with their own attitudes to divide the boundaries, but have led a contradictory and miserable life.

　　Instead of anxiety and internal friction, it is better to be brave, free and easy, and boldly face life in a dead-end way.

　　Since I have chosen a distant place, I only care about hardships and hardships. In the process of improving myself, I lower my expectations and keep working hard.

　　Then, cultivate a normal mind, cultivate yourself quietly and reap the fruits of life calmly.

　　Anti-involution means anti-internal friction

　　In 1983, the American sociologist hochschild put forward a theory called "emotional labor":

　　The concept is like this:

　　On weekdays, in addition to daily labor and physical labor consumption, there is actually a kind of labor that is extremely easy to be ignored, which is emotional labor.

　　Obviously, each of us once, now or in the future will experience such a feeling that when we fall into an excessive anxiety and tangled emotion, this emotion itself will consume a lot of our energy and physical strength.

　　If you want to fight involution and make yourself better and better, you must give up the habit of internal friction.

　　In fact, temporary internal friction is not terrible, and even you should be thankful for it, because when you feel internal friction, it is enough to remind you that you need to make changes.

　　The most terrible thing about people is that they have been suffering from internal friction and have been unwilling, ignorant and unwilling to make changes.

　　Temporary internal friction, like lying flat for a while, requires you to go back to bed, lie down and review what you did today after you have made enough efforts and made relevant labor every day.

　　Then, with a aftertaste and a sweet charm, I quietly fell asleep.

　　The real involution is to face the challenges and break them one by one in order to grow.

　　Anti-involution, in fact, is to avoid a state of internal friction.

　　Many times, what really drags a person down is not lack of ability, but fear of failure, as well as indecision and cranky psychology to destroy his mind a little bit.

　　Smart people will not easily suffer from internal friction, let alone create anxiety for no reason.

　　Because they understand that their efforts in March and April will have their own answers in August and September.

　　The really powerful people are all involuting.

　　Time is yours, life is yours, and life is yours, so why rush into it? What's the need for internal friction?

　　Anthropologist Xiang Biao said:

　　"In a more mature society, people try to find their own place according to their own specialties and interests."

　　The reason why people fall into involution and fall into the situation of internal friction is that they have not found themselves in reality, have not known themselves, and have not found a place to put themselves.

　　The most sober person alive is to know how to dispel the constitution that is prone to internal friction in time, and always seek greater welfare for himself.

　　Then, do what you say, stop when you say it, and be natural and unrestrained, comfortable and calm.

　　The most precious thing in this life is that you can be your own ferryman and be the helmsman in your own life boat.

　　As for where and how you want to go, it's all up to you, and really only you can.