Rainbow Gate： Can maintaining negative emotions really make people stronger？

　　When I was brushing the news on the Internet before, I saw someone hyping a topic, # People who keep negative emotions are stronger #. Do you think this is right? Do you feel anything strange?

　　Some netizens told the truth that "this is the poisoned chicken soup", and even some netizens accused that "the poisoned chicken soup is out of date, you know, and it is less to incite negative emotions".

　　Yes, what makes us strong is only a healthy body and mind, and it has never been a "poisoned chicken soup".

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　　Negative emotions of modern people

　　Who hasn't experienced negative emotions in life?

　　When you are alive, you will inevitably encounter all kinds of bad things, such as being bullied by your classmates at school, being trampled on by a crowded bus at work, being criticized by your boss at work and being laughed at by your colleagues, being rejected for dating, being broken up, failing to take the exam, not going ashore for postgraduate study, and falling stocks. ......

　　The occurrence of these things, big or small, will have adverse effects on the body and mind.

　　But in life, there are such people who can keep negative emotions for a long time, and they can keep them well, which seems to have no effect.

　　In order to experience a feeling of "nothing matters" and gain emotional peace.

　　This coping style seems to be effective in the sense of health, but the cost is also obvious: bad things are no longer important, and good things eventually become unworthy of pursuing.

　　There are some things we can carry, but there are always things we can't carry. What will happen if we can't carry it? Will be trapped in negative emotions and can't get out.

　　No matter how good a person is, he can't control the interference of negative energy. Some people are depressed and make extreme choices.

　　Just like CoCo Lee, who passed away not long ago, there are actually many people we don't know who can't resist the pressure of negative emotions and leave this world with helplessness and regret.

　　Therefore, those who seem to be able to "smile like flowers" are not because everything goes well, let alone because they can maintain negative emotions for a long time, but because they "love" and have the ability to accept their negative energy.

　　02

　　Negative emotions are not a burden.

　　Before accepting our emotions, we must first know that negative emotions are not equal to burdens. We don't have to feel guilty because we have negative emotions, which will undoubtedly only aggravate our anxiety.

　　When everyone has troubles, in fact, the troubles of negative emotions are widespread in the crowd;

　　However, the reason why some people will suffer from it, while others have no influence is that they have different understandings of emotional problems, and the final treatment methods are different, and the results are naturally different.

　　Ashamed to admit and express our negative emotions, we only know that simply enduring and forbearing in our hearts, but we don't know that it will bring more conflicts and problems.

　　Research shows that suppressing one's emotions will greatly affect one's health.

　　Those who suppress their negative emotions are 30% more likely to die prematurely than ordinary people, and the chances of being diagnosed with cancer are 70% higher.

　　03

　　Becoming stronger begins with accepting emotions.

　　Some people say that "many people around us are already on the verge of collapse and don't know it."

　　There is a hot topic in Zhihu, "What ability is important, but many people don't?"

　　A highly praised answer is: the ability to manage emotions.

　　Many times, it is often not the problem but the emotion that crushes us.

　　And judging whether a person is strong or not depends not only on his ability to solve problems, but also on his ability to deal with emotions. "People who don't know how to manage emotions will eventually become prisoners of emotions."

　　Many times, even negative emotions are valuable to us and may push us forward.

　　However, when negative emotions have intensified, simply avoiding or suppressing them can't solve any problems;

　　We need to look straight into our hearts, feel the roots of emotions carefully, and then release them in an appropriate way.

　　You should know that real growth is not to escape or avoid, but to face it cheerfully and accept it completely, accepting all the good and bad things you are experiencing at the moment.

　　The first step of acceptance is to pay attention to emotions. When there is anger in my heart, I don't quarrel with people immediately, but stop first and then pay attention to one thing: I have anger in my heart now.

　　Identify what the mood at the moment is not, such as not happy, not depressed, not bored, etc., and identify what it is: well, this is anger.

　　The second is to feel the moment. I don't fall into the mood to ponder the specific right and wrong, love and hate, and I don't wait until I am angry, but I notice now: I am angry now.

　　Next, keep your eyes open. Pay attention to how your body feels when you are angry, and pay attention to what happens to your body and mind when you are angry: it appears, it stays, it still stays, continue to pay attention, it is gradually decreasing or other changes.

　　It should be noted in this process that there is no need to deny that emotions do not exist; There is no need to rush to drive away and remove emotions.

　　The mentality of denying the existence of emotions and being eager to get rid of them will breed more emotions: injustice, discomfort after being forced, self-condemnation that has not been removed in a hurry, and so on.

　　As Freud said, if we only use defense mechanisms such as "repression", then "whatever is suppressed will come back in an ugly way." Therefore, negative emotions will only leave when they are completely accepted.

　　Without ignoring or denying the existence of emotions, without rushing to drive them away, simply seeing them again and again is practicing acceptance.

　　True mental health is not blindly happy or angry, but happy when it is happy and angry when it is angry.

　　In this way, it is more important to accept or integrate the negative emotions in life, obtain a three-dimensional and complete personality, and live a complete but not perfect self.

　　The world is not perfect.

　　The world is not perfect, and everyone is not perfect. Accept the world as it is, accept your own imperfections, accept the imperfections of others, and accept the imperfections of life.

　　With a grateful heart, allow everything to happen, accept all the gifts from heaven, and live your true self. Such a life is a beautiful life.

　　In the psychology of color recognition, we can use color recognition technology to recognize our true self, see our strengths and weaknesses, and see our true emotional state; Then use color healing technology to clean up and release emotions, so that emotions can flow naturally and regain inner peace.

　　In this way, when we face our emotions and shortcomings again, we will not accept everything with a critical attitude, but with a grateful attitude and live our true self.

　　At this time, you will also find that true happiness is not in the world, but in our own hearts.

　　Ok, let's share it with you today, walk into the rainbow door, pay attention to colorful life and solve the confusion on the road of life. See you next time!

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